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Almost every person invests a lot of time in planning out the details of his first date with a new person such as deciding the time and place to pick up or meet the date, what to wear on the date, what to say and how to behave with the new date. While a lot of time is invested in working out these details, very few people actually care to think about what should happen after the date (or the post-date aspects), such as – how to end the date or how to bid good bye to your partner (in case the date was a disaster), or how to carry the relationship ahead after the first date (in case the date was successful and both the partners found each other to be highly compatible).
After the date planning is equally important and one needs to give serious thought to making a call to their dating partner after the date. The timing of the call is very crucial.
• If you call your partner the same night, immediately after the date, it may give the lady an impression of over enthusiasm or over keenness, which may not be the desired impression that you want her to have about you.
• On the other hand, if you call up your partner after waiting for a period of 2 weeks, it may seem very rude and your partner may despise you for your long silence and mistake it as a nonchalant attitude on your part.
• Therefore, ideally, the correct timing of the call should be about 2 days after your date. The second option, though, is to send a text message to your partner, conveying how much you enjoyed the date and then following it up with a phone call after 4-5 days.
Another important aspect of your first call to your new dating partner after the date is what to say. Do not call your partner without planning what to say or you will end up chatting incoherently, which can give a very bad impression about you. You should start the conversation by first thanking your partner for the wonderful evening. Then, you can express how much you enjoyed your first date and your intention to further enjoy the same kind of experience by going out on a second date. If your partner agrees for the second date, you may ask her to select a venue of her choice. Once the venue and time for the second date is fixed, you should exchange a few pleasantries and then hang up the phone instead of prolonging the conversation for too long.
Sometimes, a date may be a disaster for you, but your partner may still be interested in you after the date. Under those circumstances, you should clearly convey your decision to your date through a courteous phone call. Start the conversation by thanking your partner for the first date, but clearly indicate that you do not think that you are right for each other and that you cannot see any future for your relationship with this person. Be firm and assertive, and politely turn down your date's offer to meet again. As you can see, the first call after the date is extremely important in deciding the future of your relationship with your dating partner.