In this economy the burden of providing for a family can become overwhelming. Whether you've lost your job, wonder daily if you're next, or perhaps you've got a job but the cut backs have caused a decrease in pay with an increase in hours. Not to mention watching your investments disappear. Whatever pressures are upon you, there are steps you can take to overcome this season of obstacles, serving your family while experiencing joy in your life. It's a choice!



I write this as one who walks in your shoes. Only difference; I'm a woman. I walk like a widow as the sole provider and parent of my five dependent children. And I must say, being in this position has given me great amounts of compassion and appreciation for you men taking responsibility of providing for your family!

There are three keys I've found to keep my focus balanced enjoying life while I do so.

Key One: Every day reflect on at least one positive note before beginning your day. For instance, you woke up, you're healthy, you have family, recall a smile from the night before, and in Michigan if the sun is shining that's really positive! We can all recognize positives ? even during difficult times ? when we make an effort.

Key Two: Forget the saying, ?Keeping up with the Jones's?. Whether they live next door, down the street, in your family or simply in the Hollywood news ? ignore them. When we get caught up in material comparison we lose sight of what's really important. A tight budget produces a positive discipline and one most Americans fail at. In fact, statistics state the Average American spends $1.33 for every dollar they make. Staying focused on your family and building those relationships will keep you free from focus on what you don't have and appreciate what you do.

Key Three: Invest in a relationship each day. You'll be amazed how much better you feel when you take the spotlight off yourself and on another person. Focus on your family first. From a visit to your child's school to playing a game or throwing a ball, show them you care during this special season. This down time can be utilized as a growth time in your relationships. Your children already know it's tough. So help them see you as their Hero no matter what life brings your way. Perhaps you're working excessive hours feeling exhausted with little to no energy. Get creative! Let them camp out in your bedroom, camp with them in the living room, have a spa night letting them give you shoulder massages then you'll feel great and so will they. With older kids, text them through the day, tell them how important they are, how loved they are and that you're thinking of them. Remind them that this is a season and you look forward to the future when you can spend more time together. Send your wife a special text, email or note. Words of appreciation are one of the overall greatest needs amongst people. Don't forget your family during your focus to provide. And remember to also hug often!

It's up to you. Choose to Overcome these obstacles in our economy and be a hero for your family rather than be overcome and hopeless. There is always hope for a future. The joy you give you will also receive! A happy life is a healthy one as well.

Please feel free to write in with your own questions.