There's nothing worse than approaching the object of your desire only to end up getting a refusal. And if it happens again and again, frustration can soon creep in as you wonder what's going wrong. Time to kick back with these 5 superb dating tips that'll help you become a winner in the dating game.



Avoid placing outcomes on each encounter. Sex will usually be one objective, but other objectives such as focussing on one person and wanting to have some kind of intimate relationship with them even though you've only just met. Both can make you hang around a person way too much and this communicates neediness. OK some people may trip on being the object of someone's attraction in this way, but most will find it a turn off. So make fun the objective. Just have a brief 5-10 minute chat, keep it light-hearted and fun, secure the number and move on. Combined with a "I'll call you when I'm less busy" approach really dials up intrigue and curiosity and thus increases attraction. Clinging to them like they're a lifeboat in a shipwreck says "Hey, I needy and desperate for you to like me" - come on, how attractive does that sound?

Lose the urge to impress. If you feel you have to impress others with anything other than your personality, then you are communicating insecurity and it will be picked up on. It is also incredibly boring to talk about your wealth, car, job, achievements and the like as soon as you've met someone. Why? Because your saying "I have no personality whatsoever and I'm clueless as how to communicate in a way that creates attraction. So I use things outside myself to hopefully impress you so you'll consider being with me." OK, there's nothing wrong with having those things but don't use them to impress. Impressing others with anything other than you could well have less than desirable consequences. And who wants to be with people who need impressing in this way? Let your personality do the impressing and you will get a better quality of date.

Believe that you're a bit of a catch. A positive self image is so important if you are to succeed in dating and get the one you really want. Think of it like this: if someone approached you with a downbeat, negative and timid attitude, how attractive would you find them? Not very! And have you ever heard anyone say "I really I hope I find someone who has no self confidence, who thinks they're difficult to be with and is a nervous wreck." I haven't! If you don't like yourself, you will communicate this and it is an instant turn off. Confidence can be developed by anyone so if you lack it, resolve to do something about it.

When you're going out dating, don't become obsessed with one person. Always maximize your chances by meeting as many dates as you can. The reason for this is very simple: not every date who says they'll call you will! So, be laid back and have a "this is a fun game" approach. If you meet someone and you exchange numbers, great, move on and do it again! If people don't call you or return your calls, never mind, you have other options. Don't get hung up about dating. Many people just want to meet one date and hope that this person will be the one. It's the equivalent of getting a hole in one with your first golf shot. Give yourself options by not limiting yourself to just one date and have fun!

Body posture is another factor to get spot on for successful dating. Make a conscious effort to maintain god posture by standing tall with shoulders back and head held high. Not too exaggerated, you don't want to look like a soldier on parade, just a good, confident posture. Lazy posture, with shoulders hunched forwards narrows appeal. When you sit, sit upright and have big body language. A really confident posture is to sit with arms out wide, as if you're taking over the whole space. Try not to fidget with your hands, it makes you look nervous, not an attractive trait. Be relaxed, have good posture, and communicate confidence with your body language.

You can enjoy greater dating success and the above dating techniques will help you achieve it. Why not put them into action tonight?