Can't see the forest for the trees. Let's begin with this one because it's what we experience when we discover the infidelity. We put blinders on and that's all we can see - WHAT was done to hurt us, not when or who or where or most importantly why, just what. We have to look at the big picture and look at what surrounds the situation, not just the event itself.



Experience is the best teacher. Once you can see the forest of your marriage again and not just the tree of infidelity, use this situation to grow. It's easy to sit on the porch swing before you get married and play the "what if" game, but until it actually happens, there's no way to know what feelings, what emotions, what passion will erupt from inside you. Resolve that this is the one and only time this will happen in your marriage and put it behind you as a "life experience" and move on.

A cent for your thoughts. Communication is the key to every great relationship according to anyone who knows anything. Communication is especially difficult when you have to tell someone you love something that will hurt and upset them. However, if you keep holding it in, you will only allow it to get worse before you finally blurt it out. You should take time to consider how you will say what needs to be said and then find an appropriate time to share your feelings.

It's not you, it's me. Here's a cliche that does NOT belong on the list of how to survive infidelity. It's mentioned here to make sure you DON'T use it. Because it will come up. It always does. It's not just one or the other - it's both. Even if you are the one cheated on, your behavior may need some tweaking. Although it's easy to do and a natural feeling, don't necessarily put all the blame on the guilty party. Share the experience, share the guilt and share the rewards of the future.

Just because it's simple, doesn't mean it's easy. It's simple to get married. Get a license, say "I do" and move in together. That's the simple part. But marriage is not easy. It's a full-time job, a full-time commitment and it needs to be worked on every day. Every day. The steepness of the cliffs and valleys of a marriage are measured by your ability to communicate, to bend but not break, and to forgive.

Time heals all hurts. This very well might be the oldest cliche in the book, but it is the most applicable in this situation. Once you are able to forgive each other for the pain inflicted, you can begin to heal. Let time help you move on to bigger and better things together. Let this situation fade into the distance as you grow together in life.

These cliches pertain to more than just surviving infidelity. They are the secrets to a happy marriage. Infidelity is an issue that probably goes back as far as the caveman (who has the biggest club ??) Hope this helps. Hope these show some insight to how to survive infidelity.