Question: I want to approach women I find attractive in clubs and bars, but 9 out of 10 times, I chicken out. How can I overcome this?



Answer: What you are describing is "Approach Anxiety," a pyschological process that begins after you see a woman you find attractive. You get anxious and your feet stick to the ground.

Then, you begin to wonder "What will I say? What will she say? And what if she rejects me?" These negative feelings become so powerfully overwhelming that your whole body fights against you talking to this gorgeous woman.

Be aware that this mental process happens in all guys. But, there are known ways for conquering this affliction. The best advice is to approach within three seconds before you give yourself time to talk yourself out of it.

Question: Why are women constantly saying to me, "let's just be friends"?

Answer: This problem is so common that many men use the acronym LJBF to denote when it occurs. The key issue here is that you are losing your attraction value. This then degrades your sexual status in their minds from lover level to just friend level.

However, you don't any longer need to feel as though women aren't attracted to you. The answer is not to go through life without a girlfriend. Rather, the answer is to heighten her attraction by flipping on her mental attraction switches. The three universal female attraction switches are:

1. "Pre-selection" - or to demonstrate to her that other women are like you. 2. "The Leader of Men" - or portraying to her that you're a confident who makes decisions. 3. "A Nurturer" - revealing through your mannerisms that you care for your friends and family strongly.

Once you have flipped these switches, her attraction is no longer a choice but a must. Mastering these attraction switches allows you to fully experience the comforting sensation of being an attractive man.

Question: How can I know that I'll can kiss a woman or go even further when we go out?

Answer: This comes down to the woman's sensation of feeling awkward. Women are very connected to their emotions. If you make them feel uncomfortable they'll think that you "aren't meant to be." After this happens you WILL NOT be able to progress on to the physical stages.

Most women if they feel properly comfortable with you and are attracted to you will feel ready to kiss and become physical much sooner than you might expect. The best advice is that if she shows you several signs of interests over the course of a date then she probably wants to kiss you.