If you are like everybody else, chances are by now in your adulthood, your neurological pattern is now thoroughly set and it would take some time to adjust or to alter your pattern of thinking. Your way of thinking is so defined it's like having an automatic program running in your head that enables by instinct to react in every situations the way you do.



Think for example your reaction when a relationship comes to an end. What do you feel? How do you react? Your pattern of thinking affects your emotions and your reactions ? and usually people generalize their bad experiences. So if this friend of yours broke a promise, your automatic response according to your pattern of thinking, would be something like this ?I knew it, he/she were really up to no good?. That is, if your mind was programmed to think in a negative way.

You just can't help yourself from diving into that direction of thinking and generalization. The pattern is so defined, your reactions are automatic and in the long run this pattern will make you more and more miserable. It will deplete you of joy and inspiration and you would expect everything to fail and the cycle goes on and on and on.

Reframing is a way of altering your pattern of thinking; it allows you to be free of your self-imposed conclusions. Reframing allows you to feel differently of the same matter, and allows you to react in a way that defies your well defined beliefs. Reframing gives you a chance to be happier and more positive in life.

Just how do you do reframing? Reframing is nothing so complicated and scientific in its approach ? it's a practical application of years of study made through the many explorers of NLP. It's a behavioral change for self development. It's a set of insights and skills that allows you to run your life more successfully and be able to communicate with other people effectively.

To allow you to practice reframing, try listing a few of situations which you find are stressful and disappointing. Like not receiving your salary on time, or when you get stuck in traffic jam or the rain ruined your picnic, or anything. Make three columns, the first being the situation, the second is how you would normally react and the third column, list how you would react after you have reframed the situation.

For example: In your first column you listed being stuck in a traffic jam, and in the second column you listed your reaction of getting irritated and blowing your horns every now and then to make a headway. Now in the third column, try to reframe the situation before you list your reaction on the same situation.

Look for something positive that can happen while you're stuck in traffic, what can possibly good happen during that time. Well you can enjoy the music playing in your radio, you can enjoy the extra time to be alone and relax before you plunge into your busy schedule and many more. Then write that very reaction on the third column and you'll see that by just reframing the situation, you have made a big difference in your day.