What are the chief dilemma for parent with ADD children?



“He never listens, or at least acts as if he hasn't heard a word I've said!” – Most of the times, parents might feel as if they are talking to a brick wall. This is probably the most prevalent problem of all. Getting the attention of a child with ADD is simply a frustrating task even if you seek the attention for a very short time. They simply cannot focus on anything too long to be able to pay attention to it.

“She loses everything!” – Another prime symptom of ADD is the disability to be organized. You may find that they can loose anything in a jiffy. You can look at the way they keep their things such as their closet or even school bag, which reflects exactly the situation in their mind.

“His moods are unpredictable. It's hard to take him out anywhere!” – ADD children's day needs to be scheduled if not, he or she may become anxious or irritated. This is due to the fact that ADD brain craves structure and abandoning this will be like affect them tremendously.

“She's like a little time bomb if I don't let her go outside and play!” – Hyperactivity is something that parents need to deal with. It is not something they should ignore as doing this will make the situation worse. Try not to curb but provide a give and take situation.

“He just won't mind me.” – Even kids without ADD will rebel and test the parent's limit. Kids with ADD tend to be more impulsive and often act before thinking. This makes them appear more disobedient.

THE 6 STRATEGIES FOR PARENTING YOUR ADD CHILD

1. Try to cultivate a life properly scheduled and planned for your child. This way, he or she knows what to expect thus eliminating irritations and anxiety to a certain degree. If he or she is routinely asked to go to bed about the same time every night and expected to be at the breakfast table every morning also at about the same time, your child's day will not be too unpredictable. This need for the bran to have a proper structure will benefit tremendously from organized days.

2. Information overloads in the mind of your child with ADD. This is true whether they are hyperactive or not and therefore, the brain works double times harder to handle all in a day. Make sure your child has ample rest or breaks throughout the day even if it means spending some time outside just running off the excess energy or just sleeping it off.

3. Organizing a child with ADD can result in a positive outlook. Parents can help children become organizing by laying out before the activities they need to do for the day beforehand. This can be done by having a calendar. Not only will they be able to see what is in store for them that day but possibly the rest of the week too. Teach your child to be organized with their belonging such as books, toys and even clothes. They need to be placed a specific place when not in use. Parents can help out if it seems like some days or even a particular part of a day is hectic for the child to handle on their own.

4. Do what is best for your child when it comes to disciplining them. While it is a good idea to set the limit for your child, it is also good if the limits are those that can be achieved by your child. Don't over discipline and compare what you do to other parents because it can be hard for your child to cope with. Always have your child's best interest as your top reason for doing or taking what ever action when it comes to parenting.

5. ADD childrens are impossible to control and they also can't help themselves when dealing with impulsivity or her hyperactivity. They more effort you put in learning what techniques are suitable to keep things under control, the more you feel that things aren't so bad after all. Patience is the key to success.

6. Celebrate his successes. Unfortunately, much is written about the trials and tribulations of kids with ADD. But not everything they do is bad, misguided, or intentional. Catch your child when she does something good and tell her you noticed. Reinforce the learning that she is doing to get her ADD under control. In fact, she will respond better to positive reinforcement than to your yelling and scolding.

Some parents are put off by the fact that more effort are required to manage their ADD children. Parenting is not as easy as it seems and having to deal with ADD children can be a blessing in disguise. Careful planning and organizing can go a long way in your attempt to bring the best out of your ADD children.