Abusive



When is abuse considered abuse to you is it only when you are physically hit that you can see the effect it has on your emotions.

You may be verbally abusing your children and because the scares are not showing on the body you may not think that it hurts as much.

Changing personality

Your children may feel they do not know how to deal with you for one minute you may seem very loving and in another minute you switch very fast to lots of rage.

Calling names

When you call your children names as a way to let out your rage this is consider abuse.

Your children may not do all that you want the way you want it done or the time you want it done and calling them names as a way to vent your frustration is not the way to motivate them, you are changing the way your children see the world.

Blaming children

Blaming your children for how you feel about your life does not help your children to want to be close to you or trust in you.

Your children do not have the ability to understand what you are going through and you may be using them to express your feeling that you have not dealt with.

Children silently suffering

Your children may feel they do not have a choice they are not grown up and do not have the money to move out or the ability to know what to do so they have to stay with you and take the verbal abuse.

Creating disease

Having anger out burst does not help your body function well if anything it may cause heart attack, ulcer, anxiety, headaches and other forms of stressful diseases.

Different roles

As a parent you maybe showing different side to which you are to different people, your children may see their mother most of the time angry as soon as you enter your home and when you walk out and talk to other family and friends and coworkers you are more open and understanding.

Keeping control of your emotions

You can see that you have different abilities to adjust to the situation you are in and you give yourself the freedom that when you go home you no longer need to put on an act or to answer to other people needs.

Taking the children for granted

You may be taking your children for granted because they do not have the ability to say how they feel and if they did it would have not much power in convincing you with it because they are your children and they have no choice about leaving.

Being a guide

Allow yourself to be a guide to your children; they need someone to lead them with a sense of security, there are children who are not suppose to taken on adult responsibility and throwing your worries on them is not helping to solve your problem.

Venting

Using your children to vent your feelings does not help for a successful family relationship.

Stepping out and doing exercise can help you release your pent up emotions.

Going to therapy to understand what is triggering the outburst of rage can help give you some control of your anger.

You do not have to do it alone you can ask for help from your family and friends, get support.

Conclusion : Being an angry mom does not give you the right to verbally or physically hurt your children so that you can release your anger.