Moving forward, taking risks, being somewhat uncomfortable and reaching out is all part of the process of developing the skills and social intelligence necessary to stop going to bed by yourself every night. Fear is often an inherent part of risk. And fear is often a signal that negative self deception and destructive thoughts have entered into your mind. Fear can either rule you, or you can choose to negotiate your fears and learn better coping skills.

When we are afraid, it usually means that we have an undeveloped understanding of someone or something. Fear is the ruler of most failures, and doesn't have to be the voice in your head. When we allow fear to determine what we say, how we act, and who we present as ourselves, we hide our most genuine and usually likeable qualities from the woman we are trying to get to know. She ends up with the impression that we are awkward, clumsy, or foolish at best when in reality we are simply none of these things when we are not afraid.

Once we have learned how to move beyond fear, we are able to approach women, maintain relationships, and even become a family if that is what we choose. It is, however, all about the power of choice. When we lose our fear, we can choose anything we want to choose and aren't able to be controlled by the unseen force that fear has become in our lives.

Understanding that our fears about women are usually based on misunderstanding and confusion regarding expectations, fear can be overcome and shredded by delving into the ways our mind works. When we believe that something is unattainable, out of our hands and our league, or we believe that we are doing something more than just saying hi while we order a drink, we become afraid. Some of us are afraid of looking stupid in front of our buddies while others of us are afraid that we won't be able to handle rejection well and our entire night will be lost. It just isn't so. So much of what we accept as fact is really just perception, and usually misguided perception.

So then obviously, changing one's perception would be one of the fastest and most effective ways to rid our lives of woman meeting induced fear. Women are not this unattainable perplexing mythological creature. They are human with human needs, wants, and desires just like us. So, take back your fears and realize that you have a lot of potential to fulfill those needs, wants, and desires for the right woman. Honestly, if she can't see that from her high point on the stool, then she isn't right for you and not really worthy of your time. And every time you get upset or disappointed over the rejection then you are still giving her your time. She has moved on, so why allow her to steal your night? There is nothing more satisfactory than confidently testing the waters with a woman, realizing that it's not a good match, and moving on to find someone a little better in the mix. It happens all the time for guys who simply don't allow their life to be controlled by fear.