Exactly what problem are you attempting to address? Usually we need to become much less confused about what we want. This applies to all things, from things that are useful to avoiding sore, difficult or awkward feelings. The problem is to achieve a clear mind and then to find the solutions to whatever problems we have to deal with. The 7 Words System offers a straightforward instinctive scheme that enables us to access a greatly improved knowledge of what precisely we are looking for. It opens with the word No. Primarily we need to mark out precisely what we do not want what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.



Collaboration in community organizations: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others? The following step connects to the word Hello. We need to make ourselves open to new ideas and people if we want to increase our breadth of keys to lifes various riddles. Is that reasonably logical? To get something new we will need to enlarge our perspectives and look where we have not previously looked up until now. New thoughts, new associates, new situations and new things are all parts of giving awareness to something we have not previously lived through. It calls us to substitute old for new, that we have something to offer in fair return for what we want to acquire.

Collaboration in community organizations: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the offered options? Among all existing choices, some are more desirable than others and we give them a higher meaning, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Time and again, we disregard the significance of what we have, slide unconsciously into ingratitude and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than merely civility to reveal our appreciation for things we attach importance to; it has an important effect in helping us to accomplish our ambitions. Psychologically we are pulled to what we express appreciation for, and yet it's equally accurate to say that we will be able to attract them to us too. We improve our pulling power when we say Thanks and therefore, in doing this, we naturally bring things towards us.

Collaboration in community organizations: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and has to do with a progression that has four phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. Goodbye is being said to a possible stage of change, and so can be understood plainly as utter elimination of a workable path of action that we had been stepping towards and in future will not engage in. It is a crossroad point in our choice of would-be futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it implies that we have had connection already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's rejection in the first place. Firm decisions cut the past away totally and that penetration establishes an opportunity that otherwise does not show itself.

Collaboration in community organizations: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to manifest your dreams? The future becomes known according to the things considered normal of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our will. This forces us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, clear-cut and positive transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is to some extent dreamlike and the second is much more motivated and willful. For a vision to become real there must be support. . Nothing can be done without gaining the assistance of others - this takes competence, probably arguments, even stimulation. It is not always vital to proffer something such as money or money's worth.

Collaboration in community organizations: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist, which underlie the issue? Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing harm done whenever we've been inattentive or neglectful to the needs or wants of someone else. The best plan is to make sure we prevent the need to say it by being considerate sooner. Why? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against our better purposes and lessen our chances of accomplishing what we intend, so it is simply more wise to be concerned about others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making compensation when we've done wrong. Only then is it feasible to forestall or repair offense and let go of the lasting unpleasantness that otherwise would intensify and worsen.

Collaboration in community organizations: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of being creative...find a way that works for all concerned. The last phase of our 7 Words model relates with acceptance; there are times when we simply have to resign ourselves to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be lovely wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in actual reality we can't. We always need to withstand what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The best habit is to trust that everything in time turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when understood in the perspective of the longer term. Of course it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! However hold your horses and you will see that the surprising incidents, the surprises and defeats are actually the best bits camouflaged as adversity.