People tend to get downright stupid when it comes to maintaining a healthy social life. How often have you said, heard someone else say, or thought "Well if she really liked me she would give me a call." Yet your fingers work just fine so there isn't anything preventing your from picking up the phone or shipping off one of those safe and barely personal emails to keep connected. The only thing standing in your way of keeping people in your life is you. People do not have to prove that they like you by knowing when you feel like being called. If you want to keep a relationship healthy and thriving, stop playing games and decide to call or email when it works for you.



Every single one of us has been a little low on the friendship pool. It seems like everyone else is either newly involved or they have no extra time so we single out one available person and suffocate them with our friendship. The more options you have the better, but when your options are limited, either focus on finding a few more new friends or be content with being alone for a few weeks. Suffocating the one friend you have at your disposal is genuinely going to lead to your unhappiness anyway when they ask for some space.

Greet every new person as though they have the potential to take over the position as your new best friend. It was easy when we were young. Now we want the same type of simplicity and we can have it if we offer it up from within. Did you find a cool person hanging out in the grocery store line? Ask them for a business card or hand them one of yours and tell them that you know the best comedy club (or whatever) and that you two should get a group of people together and go. People are definitely attracted to other positive people. If you are exuding happiness and positive energy, you are going to find a few potential friends for life this way.

The person who throws the parties, who organizes the group events, and who can decide where to go to have a really good time is the person that people always call to find out what is going on. If you want to be that person then all you really have to do is do a little research and find out what happenings are happening and then call up your friends and make arrangements for everyone to go. Throw a really awesome party once every three months. Invite old friends, new friends, and people who you aren't quite sure you want to be friends with yet but that have made an appearance in your life. Parties with more than forty people are the best because everyone can absolutely find someone else to be connected to. You become the social hub.

Don't bother to become too selective about who you hang out with. If you are the type of guy who is willing to hang out and have fun under almost any conditions, you will always attract the type of people that are fun and have lost their drama. Being completely socialized means not picking people apart and it means accepting people for who they are. If you can do this, you will have a social life that has to be toned down to fit things like work and sleep in.

Be careful about turning down invitations to go to parties or to go out with a group of people. Unless there is a vital reason (like a prior commitment or that working thing) then you should go. After awhile people will stop asking if you aren't obviously interested. People don't like to look like an ass by inviting the same guy over and over and being stood up over and over.

You can create your own social life just by being open to all the possibilities that the people you meet and see every day have to offer. There is always room for one more, so never close the gate on developing friendships. One can never have too many friends.