We all need people around us who see the beauty of our potential and believe in our capability. We need people who understand that the ultimate purpose of life is to flourish and fully display our unique magnificence. We need to see our highest self reflected in the eyes of someone who has faith in us. Julia Cameron calls such people "believing mirrors." While it is tremendously encouraging and validating to have our self reflected in a believing mirror, it is equally gratifying to be that mirror for others. This is the beautiful, synchronistic relationship we hope to achieve as parents, grandparents, teachers, mentors, personal coaches, spouses, muses, or friends. How do we invite more believing mirrors into our lives and how do we become such a clear reflection for others? Here are some of the important qualities of a believing mirror?



1. Believing mirrors are optimists who always see the cup as half full. Because they truly believe in the ultimate goodness of life and your ability to reach your highest potential, there are no mistakes or failures, only lessons and opportunities for growth. They know for a fact that everything happens for a reason, and one's purpose is only revealed by embracing the journey with all its twists and turns.

2. Believing mirrors are truth tellers. They reflect the reality of who you are, but always from the perspective of who you are yet to become. I love the picture of the little tabby cat looking into a mirror and seeing a full grown lion reflected back. Every kitten has the partial DNA of a lion. A truthful mirror will reflect both the heart of the lion and the potential for encasing that within the body of a kitten. The mirror's honesty is always framed with respect and polished with a generous heart.

3. Believing mirrors are clear and self- effacing. They do not muddle the picture with their own beliefs and ambitions. They do not project their needs and values upon you. Believing mirrors can step out of the way and provide the space and time for you to be center stage. They allow you to be both the director and the actor of the scene; plus they let you have as many rehersals as you need.

4. Believing mirrors only reflect the present moment. Where you stand now is what you see. The past is not in the picture: the future is for you to forge. There is no 'should of,' could of,' 'would of,' only what is. Standing before the mirror allows you to be fully in the present, which is after all the starting point for every next step.

5. Believing mirrors allow you to see the best of you. They reflect your strengths and capabilities, your gifts and talents, your divine essence and ultimate potential. They see through the make-up and blemishes and bear witness to your core. They reflect your true beauty!

To stand before a believing mirror is energizing, motivating, empowering, and validating. To be a believing mirror is fulfilling, satisfying, and inspiring. Together you experience the intuitive dance of a heartfelt connection. Often in life, you need to become what you seek. So practice being a believing mirror to the important people in your life and ask others to play that role for you. Purposefully, invite the grace and wisdom of believing mirrors into your life.

Copyright (c) 2008 Karin Marcus