Well, it is vitally important that you put all the steps we have shared together into a logical sequence and Stick to IT!



One must recall that it is us men who are qualifying her into our lives, once who we will want to begin sharing our life together. Most men allow the women to qualify us! This puts the ball in their court and you lose all control.

Remember also that too many gifts and expensive dinners too early into the relationship signals that you are chasing her; being the Bee, and NOT the Honey. Let HER be attracted to you with YOU, the unique one.

Stand out from the rest of the crowd. She will find it weird that she seems to be drawn into a relationship that is now reversed where she chases you and not the other way around. In fact, you are chasing her but she perceives that she's now do'in the chasing.

Utilize all the technology that is available in this day and age. It is a known fact that men don't talk as much as women and it's not necessary that need to spend a lot of time on the phone. Simply keeping in touch via email to build a trusting relationship with out being face to face, or voice to voice allows us to build confidence in private and also show our true self with out the pressure cooker.

Once you feel that the attraction of her towards you, do NOT continue to be drawn into unnecessary chatter even via email as you will inevitably lead yourself into the friendship only zone. Take action and ask her out on a date through the telephone.

However, having said the above, during the date, ensure that you make mention that you are seeking to build a really good friendship with her if nothing else. This lets her know upfront that you aren't necessarily chasing her for that one intention. This has the added benefit of putting the pressure off yourself to be perfect with every interaction and most importantly allows you to be yourself and have fun.

This then shows her the real you without the mask on. This also sets you apart from most guys who always have the main intention of getting into their pants early into the dating and relationship. Your showing of non-desperation draws her towards you without her even knowing it.

After dinner, again be different and take her to the coffee shop for a nice chat, and an opportunity to know more about her. Remember what was said many Guides earlier about not showing off with your careers, finances, materials passions etc etc. Don't blow it here, even if you don't have a lot to say. Her finding out about what you are and not what you have will impresses her even more, especially when she finds out later!

Find interesting topics to talk about and crack a joke here and there. The more laid back you are, and just treating her as your good friend allows you to be comfortable to be yourself and talk about anything and everything that is not just about you. Crack a joke in between to let her know of your funny side as well. Again you are separating yourself from all the other guys who usually want to take her to his place after dinner.

The next time you meet, spend time taking her to places where there are fun things to do and different things to see and do. This allows the easy flow of conversation about the place or thing your are both doing together so it doesn't feel awkward where you have to both always find conversation to amuse each other. You'll also BOTH have so much more fun together this way.