Confidence is a desirable personality trait. It can make or break a man. It can also determine his future success in having a family and working life. People like to be around those who are confident of themselves. This shows that they are secure and dont feel inferior in any way. They cannot be cowered or be subdued into doing things that they dont like.



Okay, so know that we realize the importance of confidence, lets look at some ways we can begin to develop it. How to become a cool, confident guy? The first step to becoming the guy youve always wanted to be is to close your eyes and imagine every aspect of his character. Dont rush through this.

Without a very vivid picture of who you want to become, youll never become him. Take a moment to ponder each one of these questions: How does he walk? How does he move? What does his voice sound like? Does he hold his head high? How does he dress? Go through every aspect of his character. Get an extremely clear vision in your head of this fictional character.

Then say to yourself, If I can see him, I can be him. Now take your face and put it on this character. Brand this image into your subconscious. In your mind, get used to walking around like this guy. Get used to talking like him.

Just as you wouldnt expect to be the best piano player in the world without practicing, you shouldnt expect to be a cool, confident guy without practicing. Become comfortable with the new guy youve created. Really embrace the concept that you can be anyone you want. No guy was born a ladies man. Practice this visualization for at least 5 minutes a day and youll become more and more comfortable being this character.

Another similar drill to try is called Acting as if. Right now stand up and try something. Come on, get up and really do this! Imagine that you were unstoppable. Stand how you would if you were the most powerful, confident guy on the planet. How does it feel? Get your chin up and your shoulders back. Now step away from this book for a minute and walk how youd walk if you were 100 times more confident.

Walk like youre a lion marking his territory. Walk with long deliberate strides. Take each step with total self assuredness. Why dont you walk around like this all the time? What are you afraid of? You may be thinking things like, People might think Im arrogant or Its just not me. Its these thoughts of fear that women can smell on you. You need to erase these concepts immediately.

Women respect a man whos not afraid to let the world know hes confident. You have nothing to be afraid of. Let everyone around you know that youre someone important. What youll find is that theyll start to treat you differently.

By Acting as if youre someone confident and important; youll start to actually become that way! For the next few weeks, take 5 minutes a day to practice standing and walking as if you had 100 times more confident. After a while youll notice that it will begin to reflect in your own natural stance and walk.

Companies across the country teach sales teams a very key rule that helps them sell. They are taught to assume that the buyer already wants what they are selling. In the same way, in order to be successful with women you need to assume that she wants you. Assume that she is interested in you and your body language will follow along.