Take care of your sex life with unemotional means only. Those of us who have reached a settled stage of our life are often looking for a kick. Instead of finding and researching avenues to enrich our lives and others' we indulge into meaningless experimentation. Quite a few of us put too much stake on ideas that could unsettle us for life.

Saber (name changed) is married for 18 years and has been toying with an idea of inviting another man into his bed along with his wife. He and his wife Nancy are both hetero. Although Saber is not interested in sharing his wife with a man, but the thought of watching his wife having intercourse with another man he says is exciting.

He has done a lot of research on the topic and found that many men share the same excitement. He asks if this is common and what might he expect as an outcome?

The first advice goes - "I have been married for 18 years and am not a prude. I personally think it will ruin your relationship in the long run. If she gets a taste of another, she will want another. it is just my personal opinion." Simple and straightforward, the opinion makes a lot of sense.

Another advice - "threesomes where 2 of the 3 people are involved in a relationship is a bad idea. Jealousy, etc. could very well kill your relationship." Indeed, sex just cannot be taken to be equivalent to food and changing partners like trying out different cuisines. There is a question of security in a relationship which is inherent only to a monogamous relationship. For the emotional factor to relationships cannot altogether be negated.

This advice on Saber's idea could be quite an encouragement for him -"I'm going to go the complete opposite direction from the other posters…Threesomes? Fun! Loads and loads of fun. If you and your wife find that that's your thing, well, then… more power to you! There are, however, a few things that you should keep an eye on. I'd advise definitely not involving anybody you know personally. Simply because it's all fun and games until somebody gets attached to the third wheel. Or vice versa. Also, stay away from drinking while having your fun. Guilt probably wouldn't cross your mind normally in that situation, but throw in some alcohol and you've got a recipe for trouble. And last, but certainly not least… protection of some sort is an absolute must. Threesomes are fun, and they can really strengthen a relationship by bringing some spice back into the mix… but should your beloved wife wind up in a family way then you might be left wondering for a very long while who the father is. And if you found out, it could cause a lot of problems for you as a couple and for the child." Can you completely avoid the pitfalls of the experimentation? Chances are you cannot, hence shelve the idea.

This is not the last advice- "I have always wanted to, but never quite had the courage. My wife is not at all interested. I find the idea very erotic."

So, instead find out what's wrong with you – erectile dysfunction can be easily answered by the likes of , Cialis and . A doctor should be able to help you with the correct dosage and its side effects, which are not serious. But what Saber has on his mind may have some which could be disastrous.