I've been a woman of size all my life - yes, even from my childhood because I thought Patty Fatty was real and not just rhymed. Being too large made me feel vulnerable, out of it, and weird. I knew I shouldn't have to be responsible. It was heredity. It was my dad's nagging me to lose weight. I blamed it on food or the lack of exercise. They're always a good blame agent. Or I blamed it on metabolism. I longed for low thyroid! And the baby fat they promised me I'd grow out of at puberty never occurred, dang it all. What's a large size girl to do?



None of those issues was to blame. I hunted assiduously over the years to find a way that would stop the madness. What I found absolutely blew me away.

I discovered that it was my thinking fat that was causing the fat. Nothing else.

As I look back through my life from my senior status elevation, I can see that obesity was the main catalyst in my search for understanding about myself and about life. I'm so grateful that I had it to keep the fires lit under me and keep me searching for the truth and for a solution. Seek, and ye shall find. And I did.

I discovered that life is solely a mental experience. There is only you, thinking. That's all there ever has been. It is the invisible, underlying cause behind all the experiences and events of your life, because it is true that what you think is precisely what you get. So you get to be responsible for all of it and in particular, you get to be responsible for your size.

This is a really good thing. Because you are in charge of your thinking, you can absolutely do something about being a woman of size. You can change the way you think about yourself. Here are some ways to begin focusing within your sweet self:

- Watch your mind when it thinks about YOU.

- Classify the way you think about your self as positive or negative.

- Look for trends. Mainly positive? Mostly negative?

- Decide which classification you'd like to change.

- Write down some specifically positive ideas you would prefer to think.

- If you observe that you are thinking the way you always have, resolve right then to change that to your newer ideas.

- Analyze how you think of your self and body and your a thin girlfriend think of hers. What is the difference.

- Try thinking as she does. (It might be uncomfortable at first but persevere.)

Only you can change you. No one else is responsible for the thoughts that you think but you. Only you can free yourself from the thoughts you now think that are creating your fat body. Only you are responsible for your big size and the kind of thinking that created it. I know in my heart that you are the right woman and that the job is doable. It might, however, require some work. You, you big sized girl, you can stop the madness. Imagine: if the 65% of Americans who are obese began to use mental methods to own the responsibility for their condition, what might happen? Let's find out!