First you have to ask yourself (before you wonder how to get the second date): do I want the second date? If the person seems normal and likeable and you feel you have an emotional connection, the answer is probably "yes." The thing is, if you seemed the same way, the answer would probably also be "yes" if you asked for that second date.



Meeting someone in person that you met online is a little different though. Once you get to know someone online and decide to meet in person then that is actually your second date. Getting to that first in person meeting is the same as getting the second date.

But how do you project that normal and likeable personality? And how do you forge an emotional connection? The first trick is: be yourself. Not the nervous, stammer-y guy or girl you may be around strangers, but your best self. The way you're relaxed around friends. There's a lot of forgiveness for nervousness on first dates, but there's a lot more to be said for confidence.

With more experience you will gain more confidence. It's a catch 22 like having to have money to make money. You have to have to be confident before you can truly have confidence. If you really don't have confidence then you have to fake it until you do. Don't ruin the date with self destructive comments, project confidence without being overconfident.

That's normal, now here's likeable. Embrace your imperfections, accept them rather than defend them. Don't display them, but, rather, if they show up, smile and acknowledge it with a little humor to show you know it's unusual. If the other person won't accept that, you probably don't really want another date with them.

Don't always expect fireworks with the first meeting. Emotional connections are easily spotted but not always so easily forged. If you and your date make eye contact with ease and have aspects in common then you know you are developing one.

Here's the biggest thing: you want to end on a high note, when everything's going well. That way you leave the other person wanting more, which is really how to get the second date: by getting them to want to see more of you.

Set a time limit for you date before it even begins. If it goes well take it to the max time limit or, if it's going extremely well, take it as long as you want.