1. Recognize your jealousy



If you don't recognize your jealous feelings then it's difficult to do anything with them. Start by noticing when you feel jealous. Then you'll be in a stronger position to deal with this emotion. Sometimes we're jealous because we're afraid. Other times it's because we're angry - how dare your ex go off and still live a nice life, for example!

2. Don't be envious

OK. Probably easier said than done. But you should be striving to cut down on any envy that's creeping in and mixing with your jealous feelings. Sure you're like to have that fast car or that picture perfect partner. Instead of feeling jealous about them, do something about it! If all you're thinking about is lack, that's what you'll attract. It's the Law of Attraction in action and it's you who is pulling the things you don't want into your life. Change your focus - you may need help to do this - and you'll change what you attract.

3. Speak to people about your feelings

One of the worst things we do with our feelings is bottle them up. Find one of your friends or family who you can confide in. Then start confiding! Speak about your feelings - often this is all you'll need to do. Once you start to vocalize your feelings, you'll start to see that they're just feelings rather than anything tangible. If you can, laugh at some of the more ridiculous ideas you're harboring. But at least talk to someone else and listen to their thoughts, even if you don't agree with what they are saying.

4. Change your beliefs

Eeek! This can be a big issue for some people. But if your beliefs about whatever or whoever it is you are jealous of are small, change them in one or two sessions. If they're bigger beliefs, chip away at their edges. You'll be surprised just how much you can do with this and will likely find that once you've nibbled away at the corners of a belief for long enough, the rest of it will just collapse and disintegrate of its own accord.

5. Build your self esteem

Often our jealousy comes about because we're not happy in ourselves. If your self esteem is low or even non-existent then it's worth working in this first. Maybe a specialist hypnosis program will help with this. Maybe it's just a simple matter of cutting down on all the negative talk. If you're always putting yourself down, chances are that you have low self esteem. Begin by catching yourself doing something right and give yourself a pat on the back. Reward yourself with praise or a long soak in the bath or whatever else works for you on these occasions. Do this often so that you gradually build up your self esteem and stop beating yourself up. Make a game of it if that makes this easier.