Have you set your wedding date yet? No? Tha is okay. Setting the date to your wedding is a big deal. The day you get married is a day you will remember forever. It will be the day that you celebrate every year. With this in mind, realize you must pick a date you can live with. When choosing your date there are many things to consider. Some of the basics include what part of the year you want to get married in (or celebrate yearly), if there are any conflicts with your date and if you have enough time to prepare your wedding by that date. All dates are not created equal. There are some dates you may choose to avoid. It may seem obvious, but planning a wedding can be stressful or exciting and sometimes we don't put all of our effort into picking a date which we can plan our wedding by and that we will be forever happy with.



Holidays

Some people want to get married on holidays but most people choose to avoid these dates. If you do not want to share the spotlight you may want to avoid a holiday wedding, especially a major holiday such as Valentine's Day or Christmas. Your guests may not be happy with you if you plan a holiday wedding and they have to spend their holiday with you instead of participating in their normal holiday customs, whether they are romantic plans for holidays such as Valentine's Day or Sweetest Day or more family oriented such as during Thanksgiving or Christmas.

Birthdays or Anniversaries

You may want to avoid having your wedding on birthdays or anniversaries of close friends or family members. If you do choose a date which is important to someone else you may want to consider how other people might feel about you getting married on a certain date. If you really want to use a date that is someone's anniversary or birthday you should clear it with that person first. Talk to them and explain why you want to marry on that date and ask for their blessing.

Other Days

There are countless days that you may want to avoid, days that are personal to individual families as well as the general public. If your grandparents are deceased you may want to avoid the date of their death or even their birthdays, marrying on one of their birthdays may bring up bad memories or just the feeling of loss - something you do not want on your wedding day. You may want to avoid days like Pearl Harbor day or even the day Kennedy was shot. To be able to avoid painful days for the family you need to know them, listen to what they do or do not want. Days to avoid are really individual to each wedding and family. If you family or his has war veterans you may want to avoid days that are significant to those wars If your mother is an avid Elis fan or your sister had a shrine to Kurt Cobain growing up would probably avoid the dates of their deaths plus any other dates significant to them.

Still not sure?

Pick the wedding date and ask your family what they think. Find out if there are ary problems or concerns from family members. Address what comes up. Now you can decide if you are keeping that date or if you will reconsider.