In our days there are still a lot of people out

there which are single because they haven't got a

relationship until now. One of the reasons why

this happen is because men are still confusing

about something; which is better to choose: one

night stands or long term relationships? Both

have advantages and disadvantages that's why it

is good to think better before to jump in a

relationship or to start these ''one night stands'

'.

People who choose to have one- night- stands are

not ready to have a relationship. They have fear

of commitment and consider that living single can

be pretty sweet; if you are unattached woman the

best of all is that you can spend as much time as

you want with your friends. That's why they

prefer a one night stand.

Let's face it: a one night stand is someone you

pick up in a bar, you don't know her, take it to

your place, and have a healthy sex and leaves in

the next morning, nothing more. What do you hope

to find in the arms of someone who doesn't care

about you? Instead, a long term relationship

between a guy and a girl is based around strong

mutual attraction on the physical, mental and

possibly even spiritual levels; it involves the

concept of love and desire to be with someone you

care very highly about for a long time.

The guys who are looking just for hooking are

afraid to enter in a relationship, afraid of

intimacy, rejection or afraid of opening up to

someone. So, the ones who never had a one night

stand until now, will want to try it as a

personal growth experience. Men love sex,

especially when there are no strings attached,

and sometimes the urge is irresistible. Sexual

desire is far more than a simple physiological

need. Experiencing a variety of people in a

sexual context teaches you a variety of sexual

techniques and ways of being.

One night stands can be fun, very sensual, and

harmless and will definitely boost your ego: but

you have to think about the consequences that may

happen. One of the bad things that you can take

sexually transmitted diseases, because you don't

know very well the girl, you don't know with many

guys was before you, so she might be infected. In

a one night stand the partners become incredibly

intimate at a very early stage so they become too

vulnerable to each other before they know better.

For a long term relationship you must choose

someone highly compatible in all areas, your

partner should be your companion, friend and sex

mate. For a one night stand you can choose a much

greater variety of people, including women who

are extremely sexually exciting, the decision can

be made very quickly because anyway in the next

day would matter anymore because she will leave

for all.

Relationships require making a commitment and

incurring obligations; you can't chase after

every opportunity if you want to built a

relationship, you must have some patience. Even

though, it can be very beautiful to have a

relationship, because your partner cares of you

and will be there for you when you have problems,

will help you at need, you have always with whom

to speak your problems. The one night stand girl

will let you since the second day morning and

will never care about you.

It is at your choice how you want to live your

life, but remember that if you spend your energy

looking for casual sex, there is a little time

left over for developing a long term relationship;

the rewards of investing time in a long time

relationship are not immediate.