Even if they are starting to date, in most cases

are doing this for the wrong reasons. Some single

parents think they are in competition with their

ex, particularly if they were left for a younger

partner. They also might be playing a game to

prove to the ex that they are desirable by dating

as many people as possible. In a nutshell, don't

date for emotional revenge, to allay feelings of

loneliness or to prove your desirability to

others.

After a divorce, both parties are tented to

change partners almost every week or month and

are not in the mood to compromise with somebody.

But after a while especially single fathers are

feeling the need to have a life partner and a

mother for their children.

If you are a single father and you are determined

to find someone for a long time relationship you

have to be sure that you are making the best

choice because now you are not alone, you are

making the choice not only for you but for your

children too.

There are some gold rules to consider that can

help you to find the best mom for your children

and the best lover for you:

1. As there is no surer turn-off for a potential

lover than a person who insists on living in the

past, make a rule for yourself that you are going

to do your absolute best not to drag the past

into new relationships.

2. Your kids are the priority of your life; keep

them there no matter what!

3. You have been careful to prepare your kids for

the fact that you will have a life other than the

one with them. But don't forget to make them

understand that they will not lose your love,

just some of your time together.

4. Chose to date only women that have at least

one kid already. A woman without children will

not understand you and your children needs and

will not have too much patience. Don't forget

that children are the best when it is about to

exasperate somebody, and in the first stage your

new date will be like a target for your kids jest.

5. Don't leave your partner to baby-sit. In order

to keep children safe, it is necessary to be able

to discipline them. It is too soon for your

partner to discipline your children.

6. In conflict situation try to put yourself in

your partner place, be diplomatic with your child

and try to be impartial. Find the golden mean to

resolve the problems between them.

7. Never chose your mate only because she is

getting on well with your child. You have to find

someone FOR YOU and YOUR CHILD. Remember that the

best for your children is and will ever be their

natural mum, the women you just have divorced (

for some good reasons I believe). So find a woman

that you are attracted to, a woman you find

interesting AND that is willing to accept your

children too.

8. Pay attention to her children too, and never

forget that they are the priority of her life.