Women are generally fairly polite, especially those that are well aware that it isnt easy for a guy to approach her and talk to her and try to figure out if there is any special interest there. Women have also been taught to be relatively coy and not to give too much information away with their visual cues. This means that trying to figure out whether a woman is just being polite or if she is actually interested in you.



Interest means that she believes there might be the potential for a good match. Since she isnt yawning and stretching, chances are she isnt completely bored, but since we cant read her mind we arent sure whether she in actually interested.

Some guys like to keep talking until they have either been told explicitly that the woman they are trying to engage is not interested in him or until she invites him to sit for a few drinks. But women give off such subtle cues that you might not get what you are looking for the first time around.

Women are in constant communication with their environment. When they are tired, they take on a very obvious look and are really quite expressive about their general fatigue. But then again with so many women vying for the attention of any half interesting guy in area, her cues need to stay subtle so that she can change them at will.

If you are interested and you are fishing to find out if she is, simply ask her step by step. May I buy you a drink?May I join you for a few moments while I look into those fantastic eyes and get you to go out with me next Saturday night? or May I call you later just to see how you are doing? These are very simple step by step questions that help a woman know what your intentions are and then help you grasp whether or not she is interested.

What you are essentially doing is sizing up the situation one question at a time. At any given moment you can walk in and ask her if it is okay for you to proceed with the very basic steps that lead up to your first date together. This is a rather unique and interesting approach, but those who use it seem to really get a strong response to it. Women in general are not likely to give you permission for much more than they really are comfortable with. If she gives you permission, she most likely is rather comfortable with the idea.

Asking direct questions also lets you gauge her level of interest. If you ask her if you might buy her a drink and she shrugs with a nonchalant I guess so, then you are receiving much different information than a big smile followed by an enthusiastic, Why, of course! Each answer buys you permission, and each question may very well be responded to with a different degree of enthusiasm.

Its not unusual to go from shrugging and guessing to a more committed and more excited response as you go through the various stages and questions.

Not all women will find this technique cute or endearing. In fact, some might find it downright irritating. If they ask you to stop asking them before you do everything, respect that but listen to their changing level of responses to other things like conversation about her job, family, home town, or future.

Women, most especially single women who are out in a socially vulnerable place like a bar or a club, are typically well aware of when a man is approaching her and is about to engage her for the purposes of either hooking up, getting her phone number, or ask her out for another night.

No matter how cavalier you think you are about the whole dating process, she knows when you are heading her way and she knows when you stop and smile at her, even if you do one of those shocked surprised looks as though you know her from somewhere, that you are fishing for a little something. Dont take it personally, just know that she is going to intentionally come across less interested than she really is. Its all just part of being a woman.