Soul Mate Test: NO is about boundaries and identification.



You have to know who you are if you want to find someone to be perfect for you. As a rule the vast majority of us need to become much less confused about the things we are trying to achieve. This is true for all things, from things that are useful to avoiding tricky and unpleasant emotions. The problem is to reach a clear mind and then to find the solutions to issues that trouble us. The 7 Words System offers a simple intuitive scheme that allows us to achieve a greatly improved knowledge of what it is that we are trying to find. This kicks off with No. At first we need identify faithfully what it is that actually we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Soul Mate Test: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

Look around and see what's happening, to you, to others...learn what works for others and think about it carefully. The second step correlates with the word Hello. We will certainly need to make ourselves open to new possibilities if we expect to develop our array of answers to our predicaments and problems. Is that reasonably logical? To get something new we will need to extend our perspectives and look where we have not previously looked before. Fresh ideas, new contacts , new situations and new things are clearly characteristic of giving consideration to something we have not up to that time gone through. We will want to switch old for new, that can tender something in adequate return for what we want to acquire.

Soul Mate Test: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

How well are you expressing your appreciation? Can you find qualities to admire in people you meet; the best qualities are usually deeper, often hidden. Between all existing opportunities, some are more appealing than others and of course we want them to have a higher value, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Habitually, we forget the significance of what we have, slide unconsciously into thanklessness and are likely to assume what should not be assumed. It's more than simply good manners to display our appreciation for things we treasure; it has a significant part to play in helping us to accomplish our objectives . Unconsciously, we are pulled to what we pronounce gratefulness for, and yet it's equally accurate to say that we will be able to attract them to us too. We build up our magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, whenever we do this, we smoothly bring things to us.

Soul Mate Test: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Are you willing to realize that after finding a soul mate life has changed and will be forever different. Are you willing to change? The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and concerns a procedure having 4 clearly defined phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying Goodbye to is a particular stage of development, and therefore is perceived in simple terms as utter refutation of a viable course of action that we had been moving towards and in future will not pursue. It is a crossroad point in our range of possible futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it suggests that there has been a degree of involvement already, which now needs to end compared to No's repudiation in the first place. True decisions cut the past away entirely and that penetrating quality gives rise to an opportunity that otherwise does not show itself.

Soul Mate Test: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful partnership? The future becomes known according to the habits of what has gone before unless we take control of it and shape it to our wants. This obliges us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, clear-cut and positive converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather dreamlike and the second is much more centered and willful. For a vision to become real there must be help. Nothing can be finished without gaining the benefit of other people - this takes skill, in all probability persuasion, even motivation. It is not always vital to proffer something such as money or money's worth.

Soul Mate Test: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist? Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing damage done whenever we've been insensitive or unmindful to the needs or wants of someone else. The best strategy is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being considerate beforehand. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against our better purposes and diminish our likelihood of achievement of our goals, so it is simply more sensible to take into account others as well as ourselves. It is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for someone whom we've upset and making penance when we've done wrong. Only then is it possible to prevent the likelihood or heal bitterness and leave go of the lasting unpleasantness that otherwise would strengthen and rankle.

Soul Mate Test: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Sometimes unacceptable behaviour just has to be accepted. How tolerant are you? The concluding stage of our 7 Words model relates with acceptance; there are times when we simply have to resign ourselves to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be nice wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in reality we can't. We always need to tolerate what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The greatest habit is to have an expectation that everything sooner or later turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when comprehended in the perspective of the longer term. Definitely it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! In spite of that pause a while and you may well see that the unlooked-for occurrences, the surprises and disappointments are actually the best bits veiled as trouble. .

James Burgess 2008