What you need to do is to learn exactly when you need to touch your date, and in what form that touch should take. You might decide to "accidentally" bump into the person in order to meet them; that a light brush of the upper arm is required, removing a cotton thread that may or may not be there; that taking your date's hand, and lightly stroking it is appropriate; or, perhaps, that no action at all is needed for now, because your date is not used to being touched! Perhaps you might decide on some other form of touching.
You can usually tell by the body language of your date whether a touch would have the intended effect. If he/she is leaning in towards you, seems positively enthralled by your company, and is physically quite close to you, then chances are good that a touch would be welcome. At this time, any touching you do should be kept light, and you need to study the reaction. If you see your date suddenly tense up and start to look uncomfortable, you need to back off, slowly and gracefully, but without drawing undue attention to it. If your date seems to welcome the touch, then keep it going!
Touching in a dating context provides feedback for your date; by touching him/her, you are implying that you think the date is going well, and that you fancy him/her. For this reason, and perhaps partly as a test of the man's confidence, the first touch is usually performed by the man. The woman will usually facilitate this when she is ready by positioning herself close to her date, but she probably won't want to appear too keen. However, there is no rule that says the first touch should always be initiated by men! For example, a woman who is quite keen on a man may "accidentally" brush up against him on his way to the toilet!
Many people grew up in tactile families, and these enjoy being touched more; for these people, it is less important where the touch comes from. For them, a touch will have less power, simply because it is familiar; it is expected behaviour. Others grew up in non-tactile families, and these have to be comfortable with the person touching before they will even accept a touch. If you time it correctly and do not touch too soon, the touch performed on this type of person will have a much greater effect, simply because they are not used to it. Imagine sending a shiver down the spine of your date by touching him/her at the right moment!
If you're a man on a typical dinner date, you would be well-advised to look out for this specific sign from the woman you're with. These are situations where she is keen on you, and demonstrates this by laying one of her arms across the table, so that her hand is on "your" side of it. Her arm and hand then remain quite still. If this happens, you need to take action and touch her hand, if you want to advance the flirting game! Don't think about it too much; just do it.
If you're a woman on a typical dinner date, and don't want to seem too eager, you'll want to position one of your arms as I have outlined above. Along with good eye contact, a slight smile, and perhaps even a lick of your lips, these are excellent signs to send that you're ready to crank the flirting up a notch!
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Thoughtforms can be described as energetic patterns that exist within our aura, and they are created by our own thoughts.
So if you have the thought, ‘I have all the energy I need, I have all the energy I need’, with enough conviction and belief, you’ll create a thought form who ‘makes this so’, and this newly created thoughtform will then live happily inside your aura.
This thoughtform will help you draw towards you all the circumstances you need to ‘make it so’, for example, it may help you realise that you need to give up smoking, as a first step towards better health and energy, then it may nudge you towards taking up a new hobby that you really enjoy, (and therefore boosts your energy) and as you clear each hurdle, improving diet etc, etc, the thoughtform will continue to help you clear all obstacles between you and the optimum energy levels that you want to create. This could take weeks, months, or could be a life’s work!
You could say that thoughtforms are the spiritual equivalent to computer programmes, and sub-routines, as they will keep running the same programme until the time where an intent and focus is made (by you) to change them.
You can have thoughtforms of depression, which always respond to certain triggers with hopelessness and despair, or thoughtforms of overeating, thoughtforms of rage. It only knows how to exist as itself, (it only has one programme to run!) and so thoughtforms will always attempt to deal with life in the same way.
Thoughtforms are created over time, and are the energetic equivalent of schemas (deeply held beliefs). If there is a very strong activating event, that happens only once; such as the trauma of a car accident, or rape, then, because of the strength of the emotions, a powerful thoughtform will be created. Or if over a number of years, an experience happens daily of being undermined in small, subtle ways, such as the dynamics that can occur in families, then again, due to the dripping tap of emotion, a large pool of energy is created for the thoughtform to grow big and strong.
So then, here we have the situation of a thoughtform living happily (maybe not for you) in your aura, creating the reality of the belief that is at the core of its existence, and feeding off the energy that it co-creates with the world around. Well, what then?
Well, the good news is that YOU are the computer programmer (phew), and have at your fingertips a wealth of tools.
Thoughts and emotions have great power, when used together with intent, and this is how the power of affirmations, speaking them, writing them, thinking them effectively and over time will bring about positive change. So for example, affirming ‘I love and approve of myself’, will help heal a negative thoughtform that is creating, ‘I am a useless person’. Affirmations are often not enough in themselves, but work well when combined with other methods.
Hypnotherapy is an excellent way of ‘plugging’ straight in to the appropriate thought forms, and bringing about positive change. As while counselling and psychotherapy will ‘whittle away’ at the beliefs created over years in childhood, often using the logical, conscious left-brain to prove to yourself that you’re not useless after all, hypnotherapy does this by going straight to ‘the heart of the problem’, and can bring about immediate transformation.
Hypnotherapy also uses the power of the word, and of sound, and of healing energy which is channelled through the word. When a hypnotherapist is speaking to a client in trance, the therapist is co-creating with the client new thought forms.
Parts therapy is incredibly useful, and indeed parts therapy is a way of communicating directly to your thoughtforms.
In most of us, there are a number of thoughtforms, all working in different directions, and through parts therapy, you can bring them under conscious control and get them to ‘pull together’ working together in harmony, and for the highest good.
Because these thought forms are energy and don't actually exist in their own right, (having been created secondary to that person) as a healer I use a number of clearing techniques.
One excellent energy for doing this is the violet flame, which anyone can use. This energy transforms and transmutes negative energy into positive energy. So a thoughtform can be removed and made available for use for a positive thoughtform. I use the technique of drawing off the energy with my left hand, and then ‘ciphoning’ it to my right hand and to the violet flame, which I visualise as a violet flame ‘bonfire’ directly underneath my right hand.
Other energy healing techniques using certain hand positions can be used to ‘break down’, and dissipate any negative thoughtforms around the head or solar plexus, and also certain hand positions work powerfully on past life traumas stored in the brain stem.
Sometimes bringing in the energy which is opposite to the thoughtforms gently eases them away, so with a fear thoughtform, you might bring in gentle calming energies; calling on archetypes that represent this energy, such as White Tara or Buddha, and channel their particular high vibration of energy. This energy can then gently ‘wash away’ and dissolve the fear thought form.
It’s important in this healing work, (as in parts therapy), to always treat the ‘forms’ that you’re working with, with great care, and not take the stance of ‘obliterating them’. This is not a war to be fought, but a diplomatic negotiation of change, where compassion and sensitivity are the keys to success.
We create our own reality, and our own karma through the process of creating these thoughtforms in response to the world around us, and our past experiences and beliefs. I believe thought forms can be carried from life to life (as energy never dies, it only changes). With this perspective, your life path becomes a far more ‘cause and effect’ process, and one in which we can take our power back.
So, you might want to have a think about what kind of thoughtforms you might be carrying around with you, and how to do a bit of ‘life laundry’ on them. Working to raise the energy and vibration of your thoughtforms (and of course you!) is probably the most satisfying and rewarding work you can undertake, as you’ll be repaid by your reality ever increasingly reflecting the inner brightness of your light!
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