Look at me: I gotta case of body language, Freddie Mercury



How to flirt with your body? Human communication conveys 7% of information through the meaning of words, 38% of information is passed through intonation and pace of speech, and 55% of information is admitted only with the aid of mimics and gestures. So that is the case of body language. How can we use it in order to understand the others and being understood? How can we arouse an interest in another person by using body language? Freddie got it right: this is a language for eyes, not ears.

Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye - middle space - right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.

During a light, flirting conversation the area of eye scan gets even bigger. And if you feel any sexual interest to this person, the center of the scanned area will shift toward person lips. Same will be true, of course, in case if someone you are talking to seem like is gazing right into your mouth: it is very likely that this person already is kissing your lips in her (his) imagination. So you better know that, the rest will be up to you.

Do it as I do. What makes a difference between light flirting and strong desire in a body language terms? If you are really want to get involved with him or her, mimic the object of your desire. When someone behaves similarly to us, we conclude that we have a lot in common with that person. Of course, avoid imitating any negative features of this person, because such mimicking will easily turn into a mockery. In other words, mimic must be moderate, total copycatting will not do any good for you. Even if you are copying the gestures of a person, always take a minute pause before you do your part.

Move your eyebrows. Did you know that if you lift your eyebrows when you meet a person for the first time it will be a sign of friendliness toward that person. If the feeling is mutual: you will get the same up-down motion of eyebrows in response. It looks funny from the side, especially if one of you has bushy eyebrows, it will look as if one cannot see the other clearly through them. But this is one of the oldest ways of winning sympathy (who knows how many thousands of generations of cave men used this trick before actual language was invented)? Now, when you know, you can use it!

Where the eyes rest. Watching another person movements (hands and feet) is a general sign of an interest. Seem like a trivial notion, but it is one of the strongest statements of body language. If this person (whom you were watching) notices and moves towards you: the interest is mutual. This is a moment when the body language usually turns into a spoken one!

Wink me back! Have you ever exchanged winks with someone? Wink is a sign of an interest and attraction. No surprise that it is used in the dating networks as an invitation for a chat. Same is in the offline world. If you see someone who is interesting to you, wink her (him). Got wink in reply? Start talking.