This article is for men only. It arises as a result of my decade as a relationship counsellor, during which time I sat opposite so many married couples with similar issues. Men usually reported disappointment with their wives' sex drive, and women usually reported a huge number of disappointments with any number of aspects of their husbands! If you're a man and you're willing to try a few new things, I believe some simple, sincere actions on your part could enhance your wife's libido and enrich your marriage wonderfully, resulting in fulfilment and happiness for all.



Do as much housework as you can. Don't expect her to be thinking about love-making when she comes home to a messy house. Imagine her surprise and delight to arrive home to clean laundry, clean house and dinner made. Suddenly she will have time on her hands! The greatest libido buster for women is fatigue and this is especially the case for mums. If you can ease her load, you will be amazed by her added energy and zeal. But don't do all this just when you're thinking about love-making as she'll see straight through this shallow short lived strategy. Make this a habit and weekly ritual. Buy her an energy boosting supplement, preferably one which also contains a libido enhancer, and you'll both notice the difference.

Romance her every day, not just on your wedding anniversary. Plan ahead. Be always thinking of creative ways you can show her a good time, doing things she loves, and surprising her whenever you can. Get dressed up and take her out to a beautiful restaurant, splurge for a change! The next time you might make sandwiches and take her on a picnic when the weather is fine. You'll discover that she's not that concerned with how much you spend, it's really about the thought you've put into it and the preparations you've made in advance. Ensure that you have loads of time on these dates so that you're not rushed and consider being spontaneous when the mood takes you both. Go on, roll up those trousers, kick off those stilettos and go walking on the beach like teenagers. You only live once. Make wonderful memories. Most women find this tremendously attractive. Foreplay really starts from the minute you wake up in the morning, through everything you say and do until she falls into your arms that night.

Be a listener. As a general rule woman utter twice as many words in a day than men. This means you will have to listen twice as much! A common complaint that I heard time and time again from frustrated wives was that he doesn't listen to me! Let her know that you are interested by looking at her when she is speaking. Turn off the TV, put down the paper, don't just nod and mmmmm. Respond by asking questions in regard to her discussion that enquire about how she felt, was she Ok, how she reacted. Learn to stimulate more conversation and don't feel you have to come up with answers! She often doesn't want that! It's being listened to that counts.

Send her messages, as you would do when you were courting. Imagine you are still chasing her and remember what it was like to remind her of your love during your times apart. It's not difficult to arrange a text, fax, email or card that contains a special message. The trick is to send this on days of no special significance, so that she realizes your love is sincere and constant. Talk about her, not you. List her many qualities; don't just talk about how she makes you feel about you. Gleen ideas for what to write from commercial greeting cards: might as well go straight to the experts for wording and sentiment! Perhaps you could send a card containing an invitation to a date night with you.

Be a cuddler. As a relationship counsellor I cannot recall the endless stream of comments that came from wives who were so frustrated and repelled by husbands whose only demonstrations of affection was during love making. That is one of the quickest libido killing mistakes made by men. Hug your wife at least 5 times a day without any sexual agenda at all. And be the instigator, she shouldn't have to ask. Kiss her regularly and make sure your personal hygiene is up to standard. Sometimes the best sex aids you can use are a toothbrush and aftershave! Little things when done often lift libido guaranteed!

It is very important to your lady that you be the one who remembers significant dates. These dates include birthdays, anniversaries and Valentines Days. Find a method of remembering which is fail-proof. Some men have diaries, some men use the inbuilt diaries in their mobile phones, and others rely on their personal assistant at work. Whatever it is, set it up immediately. Take the lead in your relationship. And whatever you do, don't go out on the day of the event, buy a card and gift and think you've gotten away with it. Women always know if you arrange something at the last minute, and for them it's almost as bad as forgetting altogether. On special days, consider getting out of bed early and arranging a special surprise for your lady. It might be a lovely breakfast or mystery gift, complete with a series of directions lying around about how to find it.

Be a realist. There are times that it has been proven beyond doubt, that physically women can benefit significantly from a health supplement specifically designed for female libido enhancing. The natural herbal maca powder is one that has seemingly been around forever and stood the test of time, as well as shone out in many research studies as a female libido enhancer as well as for men. Many articles can be found that outline maca's origins, outstanding benefits and use.

Men, this article does not contain every possible thing you can try to unlock the passion lying dormant in your wife. However, these are the main pointers I gleened after many years of relationship counselling, which seem to make a powerful difference in the behaviour of women. When it comes to libido enhancing, they really do work. Do you dare get started?!