The notion that most foreign women who look to find love online want to marry an American, Canadian or European in order to gain citizenship to their country has been hyped up to a frenzy in the media to create scandal and increase T.V. ratings. The reality is, most foreign women who search online for a friend, lover, or husband are well educated with deeply cemented roots to their family. They live very happy lives at home. What they are missing is a man to love, be affectionate with and with whom they can create a family of their own.

In most cases foreign women would prefer if the man moved to be with them instead of them having to leave their home country. Of course this does not usually happen because the men are not willing or immediately able to make the move. So the women make the sacrifice to leave friends, family and country behind in the hopes of succeeding with the man they have chosen to support and love.

With the U.S. National divorce rate at over 45 percent many men today ask themselves, "How do I choose a partner where both of us can be happy together until death do us part?" The following 3 steps can be a successful quick-start guide to the men who seek love and romance outside of the United States. They help answer the question of "can I really find my true love?"

Becoming Scam Proof- Don't Be A Victim

Most men who look to find love online are worried the girls they meet will scam them. But most of the women online have the best of intentions and the sweetest of dreams when it comes to meeting the right man. What you really need to watch out for is the agencies who use bait-and-switch tactics, charge ridiculously high fees and don't deliver on their promises. If you are using an honest marriage agency the small chance of finding a dishonest woman gets even smaller. However, the bigger threat of scam lays in the marriage agencies themselves.

Be very careful of agencies and paid sites that do not offer a minimum 30-day money back guarantee. Watch for very high prices for introductions; be sure to compare pricing against several agencies and sites. If you pick 3 or 4 girls you find attractive but the agency does not have their information on hand or can not offer proof they delivered your message to her, be on the alert! They are most likely using models for pictures to bait you in and then switch to the women that are available but you are not attracted to. Avoid any company with sales pressure trying to convince you to join a "romance tour." Stick to agencies with several customer testimonials, whose prices are reasonable compared to other services, who offer proof of delivery and most importantly who successfully introduce you to the women you like.

Avoiding getting ripped off by a girl you meet is really easy and a matter of common sense. Think of it this way... let us say you know for a fact your soul mate and one-true-love is waiting in a room on the fifth floor of a building. And you have the exact address to this building along with the keys to get in, however; the building is located in the worst part of East L.A. and you have to walk across the hood the get to her. Common sense will get you to her and back safely, you don't need an army or even a gun. Just good judgment. You would not talk about yourself on the way there; you would not brag of being rich or wear jewelry with hundred dollar bills hanging out of your pockets as you made your way to her. It is the same when communicating with women online.

Don't brag or boast about yourself. Do not send her money.

Get this straight, a real woman who really cares about you is not going to ask you for any amount of money for any reason (including for the internet bill so she can chat with you). If she is asking you for money before you guys have met, let her go. And if she has agreed to marry you but you have not kissed and she wants to wait till you are married to kiss, let her go. Foreign women are exotic, they are not aliens. The normal ones act just like other normal women, they are proud (and will not request financing), they are affectionate (and will want to kiss and hug you) they are intelligent (they will want to earn your trust and offer you their confidence) so if you experience anything out of sorts or weird, let it be a red flag. When you have enough red flags let her go. There is an endless stream of fine women, who are looking for the right man, don't let your woman miss her chance because you got hell-bent on some con-artist who took you for a ride. Now that said, there are not many women scamming out there for marriage and dating and some that are, are not women, they are men posing as women.

Don't Fall In Love- Not Yet

When first looking outside of the United States for love it can be easy to flip head-over-heals for the first or second foreign woman you meet! Even if you are only speaking on the phone or via letters, foreign women have an allure which can hysterically alter your senses like never before, so take your time. There are many women to meet and traveling is a big part of discovering for yourself who your soul-mate is. If possible develop a friendship with a few girls and prepare for a trip. Until then Cyber Date.

Get to know these girls by taking advantage of technology, get creative. Use free instant video chat and free calls with services such as Skype and or minimum cost calls with devices like Magic Jack. You can do all sorts of things including watching movies together, exchange video letters and more. Once you have spent sometime getting to meet high quality women, get ready for a face to face.

Get on a plane and get closer to your new friends. Plan as long a trip as possible; you will want all the time to spend with the girls you have been getting to know. Be sure to slowly take in the new foreign world you have been dropped in the middle of. Some guys rush in and do strike gold. They meet a woman right away, fall in love and are making wedding arrangements within 10 days. Do not force this type of outcome no matter how badly you want it. Love is not a speed dating round, it could start at one, but it grows with time. Be patient, she is there and waiting. Once you meet a girl who stands out from the rest, who really is the woman you are looking for, then you are ready. Now go for it!

Falling In Love- Going For It

The majority of women with a profile online are educated women whose minds and hearts are flooded with creative energy, passion and the purest of desires for themselves and their other half. They are looking for love, just like you.

Once you have spent time getting to know your girl, you have flown to meet her and her family at least once and you both have spoken clearly about your goals, dreams and life pursuits it could be the grand beginning. If you feel that special enchantment over you, it could be you are in love and ready for a life together. Go for it!

Fall in love, follow your heart and see for yourself how sweet life becomes with the foreign girl you met online who magically filled your life with a force of inspiration.