This article will give you a few ideas to help you start great conversations on a date with people that you may not know very well. But first, it's important to understand a few things about socializing on dates.
People like to talk about themselves! Most of us would rather talk about our life than listen to someone else talk about theirs. There is nothing wrong with that, it's just human nature. With that in mind the conversation starters I give you later in this article purposely focus the conversation on the other person.
It's a good idea to keep all conversation positive--never bring up negative things like death. It's also wise to avoid controversial subjects like religion, politics, and abortion until you get to know the person better.
Try desperately to keep away from all "canned" conversations like, "So, what do you do?" or, "Where are you from?" This stuff is important to know later on (maybe the second or third date) but it makes you seem dull and unoriginal... not the kind of image you want to portray on the first date.
Here are some good conversation starters that focus the conversation on the other person:
"Have any pets?"
This should start up a lively conversation because people LOVE their pets and LOVE talking about them even more. If they don't have any pets then just move on to something else. Or, you could ask, "Really? Why not?"
"Where did you get that _______?"
Ask them about a specific piece of jewelry or clothing. This conversation starter works particularly well with a really unique piece of jewelry or clothing... something they might be interested in telling the story behind.
"Have you ever ________?"
Ask about something that you are knowledgeable about or enjoy doing. This is a good way to find out if you have common ground. If they do have that interest in common with you then you will have plenty to talk about. If they don't have that interest then just say, "Oh, I see." They will ask, "Why do ask, have you?" Then answer honestly but don't brag and don't go on about it for too long--just move onto something else.
"Do you like sports?"
Men AND women are passionate about sports and all enthusiasts enjoy talking about them. Who knows, you both may enjoy the same sport... why not buy tickets and go to a game for your next date?
"Have you ever been to ________?"
Ask them if they have ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club, restaurant, or amusement park. If they HAVEN'T been there then this is a great way to get a second date... "You haven't been? You don't know what you are missing out on, we have GOT to go..." All of these conversation starters are centered around topics that have the potential for interesting and exciting conversation.
First Date Conversation Topics
Ask yourself: What is the most stressful part of a first date? More likely than not, you answered this to be the conversation. The truth is that the conversation on a first date can be the difference between success and failure. When you know what to ask and what topics to bring up, you increase the chances of attracting her and securing dates in the future.
So, what should you ask on the first date?
Well, I will first answer this with what not to ask...anything that is boring! This is an excellent way to ensure this is your last date with her. Remember, women are not attracted to boring guys. It's that simple.
Terrific first dates involve conversation topics that help build chemistry between you both. Generally, first date conversation topics should focus on getting her interested in you.
Here are a few first date topics and/or questions you should opt for during the conversation:
Hobbies and Interests. Everyone loves to talk about their interests and passions. If you ask a woman about what she loves, she will begin to discuss her hobbies and interests positively. She will then transfer these positive emotions triggered during the conversation to you and will become more attracted to you. How she feels during and by the end of the conversation is what she will remember. If it brought on positive emotions, she will think more positively of her time with you and want to get to know you better.
Dreams and Aspirations. Women also love to talk about their dreams, goals and aspirations. Be sure to ask what she has always wanted to do but has not yet done. You will notice how excited she becomes about her dreams and goals which will, again, result in positive emotions she will transfer to you.
What She Would Do. By this, I mean that you need to ask her situations questions: "What would you do if...". These are great way to bring out her personality. For instance, you can ask her what she would do if she won the lottery and never had to work again. Or, what she had a million dollars to spend in one week.
The point is to make the questions interesting. Use them to spark great conversation while showing that you are interesting in getting to know her.
Sex. Contrary to what many think, introducing sexual innuendos into a conversation is a great way to build some attraction. Try telling some funny sex-related stories or tease her in a sexual manner. Gradually, she will subconsciously begin to wonder what you are like in the bedroom.
Not only does this tip contribute to building attraction, it will create some sexual tension and, we all know, that this is the best kind!
Remember, it is all about impression and the conversation on a first date is very important. Asking the right questions and stirring up the right conversation can help you more easily shift to increase intimacy and secure future dates. By following these first date conversation topics above, you will be on your way to a second date and more!
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