But masterful flirting should have a definite direction. And that direction is to get her making mental pictures of the two of you together in intimate situations -- because once she starts making those mental pictures, and integrating them into her thinking, you're half way there. So just breezing around with funny talk, or trying to get her interested merely by being cocky and funny, is totally missing the point.



Everyone loves a good flirt. It's the mark of an accomplished seducer, and a skill that women love in a man. Watch guys who are good at it, and see how easily they keep women hanging around them.

Flirting gives you the means of bringing a woman's imagination into play. It's the linguistic equivalent of the teasing kiss, the foreplay to verbal intimacy. And it's a compliment to any woman that a man thinks her worthy of flirting with.

We cover four different flirting techniques in The Master Seducer's Handbook. All of them are great, and all of them can be used together. But the one characteristic is that they ALL have women making the right sort of mental pictures.

I want to tell you briefly about one of them here. It's the art of teasing.

Let me give you an example to start with. And then I'll explain why it works so effectively. First, compare these two lines:

A. Gee, I'd sure like to take you out sometime.

B. Gee, I'd sure like to take you out sometime -- but I'm not sure you could stand the excitement. (Said jokingly.)

Now, what do you think will go through a girl's mind when she hears that second line? I'll tell you. A little part inside her unconscious mind is going to rise up in defiance and silently say, "Oh yes I could."

In NLP, we call this part the 'mismatcher'. It's the remnants of that stage we went through when we were two years old, when we used to stamp our feet and say an emphatic NO to everything mum told us to do.

Sure, her conscious mind will accept your remark as a joke. But her mismatcher part is still going to push its defiance as hard as it can. And even though she may not be aware of it, it's going to influence her thinking -- and, more likely than not, get her to agree with what you're suggesting.

Try it on yourself. Imagine a girl saying the same thing to you -- and think how you'd respond. It's as though something inside you is damn well determined to take up the challenge.

Now think of a few other lines you could use with the same approach - all said jokingly:

"I know a great club not far from here -- but you probably want to go home and do your knitting."

"Would you like to dance -- or do you have to ask your girlfriends for permission?"

"I'd ask you to come to the beach with me on Sunday -- but maybe you’re not used to having real fun."

Remember, with lines like these, she HAS to make a mental picture of the two of you doing something together. She can't NOT do this, because it's the way we make sense of language.

And it's that mental picture that will make its way into her on-going mental dynamics to ultimately influence her attitude and reactions to you -- which is exactly what masterful flirting is all about.

And here's another great thing. You can use exactly the same technique to jokingly counter any brush-offs or objections -- for those times she might be inclined to say no. Look at these lines, for example:

HER: You're not my type.

YOU: Why? Don't you think you'd be good enough for me?

HER: I don't go out with older men.

YOU: That's probably because you haven't had much experience with someone really adventurous.

HER: I'm out of your league.

YOU: I guess you're not used to someone with a great sense of humor.

But, and I repeat, you MUST say these things lightheartedly, in a way that pleasantly disarms her and invites her to join you in the joke.