You should think about what you would say to a stranger you had some interest in at a party or coffee shop.



What you do for a living, and what you aspire to do for a living, almost always comes up within the first 5 minutes of conversation when you meet someone new.

Again, be careful with this topic.

You're not looking for a job, you're looking for someone to hang out with and maybe start a relationship with.

If you have children, you should definitely talk about them in your profile. You can mention their age and where they live. You can mention something specific about them like:

“I have a 12 year old son who lives with his mother in New York City, and loves to play soccer.” However, don't overdo it when talking about you kids. Remember, this profile is about you.

You should talk about any pets you have. Most likely, they are an important part of your life, and you want someone who's reading your profile to know you have pets. Again, this isn't something you want to overdo.

Something like:

“I have a very friendly 3 year old male Collie named Danny who enjoys going to the beach and park with me.”

Obviously, mention any hobbies or activities you like to engage in. Mention any civic or professional groups you may belong to.

Always be sure to mention exactly what you are looking for in a relationship within the ad.

If you're looking for a serious or long-term relationship don't be afraid to say so.

If you're just looking to date around and have some no strings attached fun, don't be afraid to say so. Remember, the goal of the ad is to attract the type of people who are looking for the same things as you.

You don't want someone who is looking for a serious relationship contacting you if that's not what you want, and vice versa.

Avoid negativity in your ad at all costs! There's enough negativity in the world. If people want negativity all they have to do is turn on their television and watch the news for an hour.

When it comes to online dating sites, people are looking for upbeat, positive, fun, people to be around. A perfect example of negativity in an ad would be: “Are there any good guys left? I think all men are nothing but a bunch of liars and cheaters.” Or,

“I really can't stand the stuck up women at the bars and clubs so I figured I'd give the online dating thing a chance.” Even if you really feel that way, or think that way, delete them out of your profile instantly.

You'll be doing yourself a big favor. Another big thing to avoid in your profile are generalities.

I'm sure you've heard these before: “I'm a really fun, outgoing, person who likes to eat out and go to the movies and take walks on the beach.”

This is just a profile makeover waiting to happen, or more to the point, a profile that gets passed over very quickly.

Be unique.

Instead of saying “I like to go to the movies”, say: “My favorite movie is The Godfather. It's my favorite movie because you can't go wrong with Marlon Brando, Robert Duvall, and Al Pacino acting in the same movie.

I think the acting, the cinematography, the musical score, and the writing are superior, even to most movies released today.” Which sounds better to you?

One more example, instead of “I like going out to eat”, use, “When it comes to eating, I really like to go to Fred's Place. My favorite sandwich there is the Philly Steak Sub. The steak is mouth watering; it's always cooked to perfection.

They always put a heaping pile of mozzarella cheese on it. The freshly chopped green peppers and onions are the perfect toppers to this delicious sandwich.

Do you get the picture? Use your profile to its fullest potential. Don't be afraid to throw some humor in.

However, only use humor if it's natural to you. Some people just don't have a flair for humor, and that's okay if that's how you are. The biggest piece of advice about writing your profile I can give, is just be yourself.

Don't try to be something or someone you're not. You won't attract the right type of people by doing it. You'll only be cheating yourself.