It's very easy to be funny by being goofy and having others laugh at you - but it is not good. Why? When people are laughing at you, you are generally lower in social status than they are.



Ever seen a documentary with hyenas? The omega male is the one that always gets picked on and overpowered. He eats last and almost never gets to breed with the females.

Why? The offspring he would create might have his omega genes and possibly inherit his behaviors, thus making it hard for them to survive.

Much is the same with humans. If you are being the 'goof of the group' and people are always laughing at you, then you will be selected last (if at all) by females.

Instead of being someone to laugh at, you should focus on showing others how to laugh at life, themselves and situations. Help people laugh about the weird, charming, goofy and funny nature of things.

You'll notice that I included 'goofy.' Yes, you can still engage in goofy humor. It's playful, disarming and I personally love it. Just don't be a goof to laugh at.

I'm also not suggesting that you take yourself ultra-seriously and never allow anyone to have a laugh at your expense. Just don't encourage it in order to get the approval or attention of those around you.

If others laugh at something you said or did, have enough confidence to laugh with them, or reverse the joke back on the person/people.

For example: You walk out of the bathroom and your zipper is undone. Suddenly, your friend John points, laughs and begins the subtle social process of having everyone get involved and laugh at you.

You stop walking. Remaining composed, you begin to nod slowly. With a grin on your face, you say, "I knew it - John is secretly gay! What's the first thing he looks at when I walk into a room? My zipper - John, you have issues man."

Congratulations. You have just defused the situation and John probably feels a little silly for pointing it out. He may just think twice before trying that sort of thing on you again.

Note: Be playful with this kind of behavior. Don't become the loser who tries to make people feel lousy in front of others. The point is to maintain your air of social status, while being playful and not becoming the butt of jokes.

There are many ways to be funny in an attractive way. However, you must remember that no technique or funny line will be a quick fix for success with women and dating.

Being funny includes more than funny lines or jokes. Pick out the funniest comedian you know (Eddie Murphy, Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock, etc) and repeat one of their jokes to your friends.

Why is it that the joke sounds better coming from the comedian than it does from you? It's because something else is going on when the successful comedian is telling the joke.

Pay attention to:

- Their level of confidence.

- Their body language, especially facial expressions.

- Well-placed tonality changes.

- When and how they pause for effect before delivering punch lines.

- Their verbal and non-verbal reactions they make when people start laughing at their jokes.

- How they structure their stories.

- How they insert bits from previous jokes into new stories for extra laughs (i.e. callback humor).

More tips on how to be funny:

- Watch comedy movies.

- Listen to audio recordings of successful male comedians.

- Don't try to impress women with humor

Being funny and entertaining can spark massive attraction. However, a woman will lose her attraction for you the moment she senses you're doing it to impress her.

Why? She will realize that you see her as the prize to be won and it will usually kill off most of the attraction she has for you.

So, never try to win a woman over by being a performing monkey. It simply does not work.

She may be laughing and giggling at things you are saying/doing, but secretly she will see you as having entertainment value rather than sexual value.

If she perceives you as her entertainer and you try to escalate to any form of intimacy, you will most likely be flatly rejected.