What You Need to Remember



We've covered a lot of material in this chapter, but there are a few points which I think are the most important for you to remember. These points are listed below:

? Both women and men go through four stages of sexual arousal. The difference between them is at which stage they are ready for intercourse. Men are ready from the first stage when they have an erection; women need to wait until the end of the second stage if they are going to be physically ready to have an orgasm.

? Just because a woman's vagina is lubricated that does not mean she is aroused enough for sexual intercourse. Women who engage in sex before their body is ready generally do not have as pleasurable an experience and rarely have orgasms, particularly not vaginal orgasms.

? By learning how to control their PC muscles, men can train their bodies to hold off on ejaculating. This means they continue having sex longer and can achieve multiple orgasms for their partners and themselves.

? Oral sex and genital touching are not really foreplay. These are sex acts, not lead-ins to sex.

? Foreplay should involve gentle touching, particularly of the erogenous zones, and any type of activity which will relax your partner and heighten her arousal, including talking dirty, giving her a massage, or rubbing her skin with an ice cube.

? Don't engage in sex until she is ready. Remember wait until she is asking for penetration even though it may be difficult for you to hold back.

Strategies for Achieving Orgasm

After you've gotten your partner worked up with the use of some good foreplay, you're now ready to move on to the next step and to bring her to orgasm through sex. In this article we're going to look at how you can help her reach orgasm through vaginal, oral, and even anal sex. The reason is that variety is going to help keep things from ever getting boring in the bedroom (or wherever else you enjoy one another).

Orgasm through Vaginal Intercourse

As we've discussed throughout the article, most women find it difficult to achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse. In this section, however, we're going to look at some techniques and positions you can try with her in order to make climaxing easier. Keep in mind as you try these different approaches that every woman's body is different, so if one technique doesn't work with your partner simply try something else.

? Missionary Position 1 ? For women, the missionary position is often the most difficult when it comes to achieving orgasm. Unfortunately, if your partner is nervous or not very experimental, she may not be interested in trying other positions yet. That doesn't mean she can't still get off. Have your partner lie back on the bed and place a pillow or two under her butt so her pelvic area is more arched. Remember to continue the foreplay even as you are getting in position, so fondle her breasts or play with her butt as you place the pillows. Whisper in her ear that you have something incredible in store for her, then let her mind conjure up the details. With her pelvic area arched in this way thanks to the pillows, you'll have an easier time of stimulating her clitoris during vaginal intercourse. However, if you want to boost your odds, you can purchase an inexpensive vibrator designed for the anus. Gently insert it at or before you begin penetration. The vibrations will stimulate her pelvic area, including her clitoris, which may lead you both to the desired orgasm.

? Missionary Position 2 - Repeat everything from the first missionary position we discussed, but instead of using the vibrator, place your partner's legs on your shoulders as you thrust inside her. This makes it easier for your penis to stimulate her clitoris. Remember to start slowly and work you way up to harder and deeper penetration. Let her reaction guide you. If she begins to moan with pleasure, then intensify your movements.

? Grinding ? When women masturbate with their fingers, they often rub their clitoris using circular movements. Since you know that, you should attempt to use similar circular motions during penetration. To do this, you need to grind into your partner the way you would if you were doing some erotic dancing. Move your hips in a circular motion and make sure that you are pressing against her groin area. The combination of your movement and the pressure on the area will stimulate her clitoris and bring her to orgasm.