Afraid of your marriage? You might ask. But, there are people who do not want to talk about it and shut their ears on hearing the word marriage. Why do they fear marriage or what factors drove them to develop such an aversion towards marriage. For any human nature they might be a number of reasons like family, limitations, conditioning, and experience etc.



With some personal observation in society some people learn the hard lesson or get the negative impact of marriage. Marriages are made in heaven no doubt. But some marriages turn out to be hell because of various reasons. Some youngsters take these examples very seriously and fear to get married, thinking that their life might also be the same.

But this is not true and it is unpractical and illogical. We create our own live situations and it is not the fault of the bride or the groom. It is a very immature reasoning on the part of some youngsters today. Many feel that their freedom will be lost and they dread the idea of having a nagging wife around them 24/7. This thought is again influenced by television, movies and other media, which project woman as nagging housewives.

Someone might fear to get married due to some serious issues. They might have some psychological issues or health problems which might have instilled a fear for marriage. Kids learn from parents more and hence when a mom and father is always fighting and beating one another, it might create a negative impact and fear in the mind of the child watching them. Many are anxious and have a fear for the unknown.

You should determine what exactly you are scared of. Most people don't fear marriage itself but rather, its implications and its potential failure or loss of freedum. One must understand that secumtanses keeps changing and so does people. What you think wrong today may be right tommorow. Address your fears. If your parents had a bad marriage the try to understand the issues behind that. You must understand that every marriage is different, and just because some wasn't successful doesn't mean yours can't be. If you're worried about the marriage falling apart or loosing your freedum, then make a list in your mind of what you can and will do to make the marriage work. Imagine all the scenarios that make you scared and then, try to imagine what you will do in that specific situation to make it better.

A good counselor should be able to guide someone who has this fear for marriages. They can point out the pros and cons of a marriage and then give valuable advice on how to overcome this fear and start a happily wedded life. All said and done the person must first trust this oldest institution called marriage. Only trust can drive fear away and allow tem to make a decision on whether to get married or not. Fearing marriage is baseless and with some mature understanding of this system life can be very fulfilling.