Pay close attention to the words you read here. I promise you that if you follow these instructions that you can experience dramatic personal change in a very short period of time. How do I know this? Because it worked for me with very little effort at all. I'm not a mental expert, I just know how my mind works and I sense that my mind operates in a similar manner to yours.
Saturate your mind with positive images, attitudes and pictures. Discriminate against all negative thoughts that can deflect you from your goal. Do not allow negative input to take root. The Apostle Paul once said, "take every thought captive and make it obedient" You must be extremely careful about the thoughts that you allow to begin to take root in the fertile soil of your mind.
So be extremely critical of the information that flows into your fertile soil. Information is either fertilizer or pollution. If the information you're receiving is not consistent with your goals and objectives then you must make a quality decision to stop receiving that information. You may even need to choose new friends or decide which family members deserve your time and attention. You may have to limit their access to you if all they have to share is negativity.
Here are some of the finest books that I highly recommend reading: 1. The Bible. Excellent for your spirit even if you're not a believer. 2. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. A must read. 3. Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. Read this and grow. 4. The Success System that Never Fails by W. Clement Stone. One of the best.
This is not all inclusive. I don't have time to list all of the classics that you would benefit from. However, these are very good starting points for you.
You absolutely must treat your mind like a very delicate flower. Your subconscious will believe and act upon any suggestion you allow it to receive. You are driven by the subconscious mind whether you like it or not. Try these disciplines for yourself...I KNOW they work. Every time.