Step 2 ? From this find areas of your life that need ?working up? and others where you are ?doing fine? by counting up and comparing your scores.



Step 3 ? Have a look at the guidance ?chat? below relating to each of the 7 aspects of your life that need to be under the spotlight, some more than others!

No

Where do you finish and others begin? Are you clear about this? Do you sometimes feel that others get what they want more than you and you go along with this? It's time to stop, get to know yourself more, what you like and dislike, not just because others do. What clothes make you happy? Find hairstyles and make-up that suit you and that you feel comfortable in, so that you are truly you. You don't have to go along with ?the crowd?, you can choose to be you!

Hello

Ooh! There are so many choices, so many people to hang out with. This is a chance to really look around and spend some time deciding what is worth looking in to. It could be anything from body cream to boyfriends. How do you know what suits you best? You need to spend some time looking and sometimes look at things in a different light. Shine a spotlight on something and see whether it sparkles or withers. See if you get something in return that is useful which leads you on to something deeper. Commune with your body scrub!

Thanks

What do you really feel good about in your life? What is important to you? Is it your family, your friends, your work, your clothes, etc.? The things you value the most can give you the greatest pleasure, especially if they touch your heart. With loved ones you may show that by giving love or some token gesture of love. With work you give your time, if you especially ?dig it? you give your enthusiasm and commitment. All this helps you to feel good about your life.

Goodbye

Sometimes life gets so confusing, there are so many possibilities. Once you have decided there is something you wish to pursue ? a job, a room to rent, a friend to get to know better, a dress which you saw in the first shop you looked! ? you need to say ?bye bye? to the rest. When you have the perfect dress, why would you buy all the others you have tried on? You cannot live in ten rooms at once, you have to decide on one and stick with it, at least for a while. You cannot move to the next stage without saying goodbye to the other options. Once you become more practiced at valuing certain things in your life, it will be a lot easier to cut away the things that are not useful.

Please

Where is my life going? Do you ask yourself this often? Are the things you are doing in your life leading to something? Do you feel on track? Or are you going off the rails? Wouldn't it be nice to know that everything we do in our life fits in to our own puzzle and that all our puzzles fit together to make an even bigger one? When you can see a bigger picture for yourself you can do something about it by asking others to help. We could all help each other. Now that's a novel idea!

Sorry

What about all those things you have done or experienced that you feel bad about? Wouldn't it be good to be able to be free from your own guilt and not blaming other people for things? Hey, if you ?own? the bad things you have done and really feel the ?wrongness?, you can do something to make the situation better, either by apology or a gesture of remorse. You will be surprised how much relief you will feel.

Yes

What happens when you are faced with something you are not sure about? There are certain stages to go through before you can really say ?Yes!? whole-heartedly. Wouldn't it be great to feel OK about everything in life? Sometimes though, we go along with things even when we have only the smallest degree of ?yesness?. It's like saying ?I will allow this to happen.? Even ?I accept that this will happen.? What about ?I agree with this, and whatever the outcome, it is absolutely fine for me?? What a way to live!