Whether we are working outside of the home or inside the home, it is becoming increasingly more difficult in the age of ?instant communication? to take some TIME OUT for family. We have the cell phone, Blackberry, Instant Messaging, and the list goes on of ways that we can be contacted instantaneously. And in each of those moments our attention is diverted from whatever we were doing to give our attention to the ?new? pressing issue.
Let's face it; most of us take Family Time for granted. If you are working outside of the home, it is easy to let those precious few evening hours be taken up with phone calls, returning email, putting ?final touches? on work related items, etc. If you are working in the home the distractions are similar; phone calls, volunteerism, housework, etc. The point is that working parents (both inside & outside the home) are letting outside influences take precedence over Family Time.
Would we let having to stay an additional hour at work in order to send the CEO the sales figures for the 1st quarter have priority over our child's ballet recital? Would we allow getting the last load of clothes laundered take precedence over singing ?The Wheels on the Bus? (for the 100th time) with your toddler? Each of these things is important and depending upon our value system at the time any of these activities may or may not make it to your priority list. If you ?schedule? the time, you may be able to get more ?Family Time? than you thought.
Here are a few tips to finding more Family Time:
SCHEDULE IT! ? Almost everyone has some system of remembering all the things that need to be done at work/home. Whether it is a Day-Timer, a Blackberry, a refrigerator calendar you have a way to keep track of the myriad of activities in your family. Family Time is a priority that you want to find time for so schedule it. In our home, Friday night from 6:30pm until the kids? bedtime is Family Time. We all have to do an activity together. Each child gets a chance to choose what he/she would like to do for our Family Night and EVERYONE has to do it. This is a great way to get everyone together and you can find times in the midst of your time together to get to know what is happening in your child's world in a relaxed setting. Some of the favorite activities at our house; the arcade, bowling, Scrabble tournaments, Uno, music concerts, and movies.
COMMIT TO IT! ? It is easy to let phone calls, email, net surfing, etc. to take your attention away. Don't let it! Turn the cell phone off, turn the computer off, turn the Blackberry off and truly give all of your attention to your family for your designated Family Time. Don't let anything intrude on your time and your kids will see how much Family Time matters to you, how much they matter to you.
ENJOY IT! ? If you are not accustomed to scheduling a block of Family Time, the prospect of spending a block of unstructured time could seem a little daunting. In order to ease into a comfortable time with your family, you might first want to schedule ?activities? that take you out of the house. With activities, there is an opportunity to bond during the activity, but if there is a lull in communication it will be OK because you can focus on the activity.
Guide To Family Law
If you need a divorce or family lawyer in London, a small specialist firm outside Central London may provide a more personal and affordable service than a large firm with many departments and large overheads. Most London family lawyers are members of Resolution and committed to resolving family law disputes in a constructive and non-confrontational way.
Mediation and collaborative law
Increasingly encourage their clients to find ways of resolving issues by means other than court proceedings, such as mediation or collaborative law.
Divorce proceedings
Getting a divorce with the help of family or is usually straightforward. Divorce proceedings are seldom defended or require attendance of the parties at court. A simple divorce usually takes about 4 months from start to finish.
Children issues
If you can reach agreement about the care of your children, there will be no need for a court order. If there is disagreement, a can prepare proceedings to enable a court to make orders about residence and contact, or specific issues such as a child's education. The court will encourage the parties to reach agreement wherever possible but, failing agreement, will make any orders under the Children Act 1989 that are necessary in the interests of a child.
Financial issues arising from divorce
The courts have wide-ranging powers on divorce to redistribute income and capital assets. The courts powers are contained in the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973. To achieve a fair result the court considers all the circumstances of the case and the particular factors set out in section 25 of the Act. There is no set formula which the court applies. It is essential for each party to make full disclosure of your financial circumstances, including income, capital assets and pensions. A can assist you in these financial issues.
Child maintenance is generally calculated by reference to the Child Support Act. The parent with whom a child is not living will pay a percentage of his or her income by way of child support. The court has residual powers to order top-up maintenance in particular circumstances.
Pre-nuptial agreements
Before embarking on marriage, it might be wise to take advice from about the advantages of a pre-nuptial agreement. The point of a pre-nuptial agreement is to agree what will happen if the marriage ends in separation or divorce. Increasingly, the courts are taking such agreements into account when a marriage breaks down. Such agreements need to be preceded by financial disclosure and each party should have the benefit of independent legal advice. The agreement should be signed at least 21 days before the wedding.
Cohabitation
If you are cohabiting, or thinking of cohabiting with another person, and particularly if you are contemplating a joint purchase of property, you should consider entering into a cohabitation agreement, in case your relationship breaks down and you need to know what will happen to the property you live in or to assets which you have acquired together. A London family lawyer can prepare a cohabitation agreement, in accordance with , which will state how each party has contributed, or will contribute, and how the property will be divided in the future.
Inheritance claims
If you are financially dependent on another person (e.g. a spouse, cohabitant or parent) who dies without making reasonable provision for you in their will, you may be eligible to make a claim against their estate. A London divorce or family lawyer can give you appropriate advice.
The best advice in all these circumstances is to consult a specialist London family law solicitor.
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