Back in our minds we must hold onto some part of what we understood a holiday to be. This is especially true of the major holidays like New Year's, Easter, Memorial Day, Independence Day, Labor Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas.



It's interesting that the largest number of divorces are filed in January. Although there are many theories why the number of divorces jump in January, two things come readily to mind.

1. With the new year comes hope for changes and something better. Forget about the reality that resolutions and promises made to yourself never seen to come to fruition. The idea of making a new start is appealing for many. If you're having problems or challenges in your marriage or personal relationship, it's not too far a stretch to want to make a new start there are also. This could explain the spike in divorce filings in January.

2. Another thought is a depression caused by unfulfilled expectations by the holiday season. We have Thanksgiving, Christmas then New Year's all within 60 days and all been considered major holidays for many.

Although we hope for a close-knit family gathering at Thanksgiving, the reality can be quite different. And who hasn't heard of the major fights and verbal altercations among family members during the Christmas season. Are all these problems caused by our underlying attempt to recapture the meaning of these holidays?

With the reality that Christmas is no longer family, friends, or excitement but has been reduced to a generic buying opportunity by society, does this also cost a mental disturbance in our thoughts and memories?

If this is possible, the disappointment and recognition of what the holidays have become may contribute to an almost melancholy if not depression like state. I realize that there are those who may not understand this situation. The pervasive nature of our society can change the perspective of almost anyone.

The same can be said for almost any holiday period throughout the year. July 4, Independence Day has become more of a beer drinking wiener roasting extra day off than a day to reflect on the blessings and freedoms given to us by the creation of our country.

Thoughtful Americans may struggle with the ongoing push for ever-increasing sales by tying consumer special events to any holiday. This struggle may lead to depression and general sadness.

Depression is a very serious mental condition that can result in an ongoing sadness that seems almost uncontrollable. If you think you may be suffering from depression, it's important to seek help as soon as possible. Although not proven, many believe that depression is a chronic illness that will continue to deepen and worsen without proper care and treatment.