Quarrelling in front of your children



Are you quarrelling in front of your children in different situations such as when you are home, in the car, when you are shopping or at a restaurant?

You are teaching your children because you feel and it is alright to vent your feeling out in public no matter who it hurts.

Hurtful names in front of your children

Are you calling hurtful names in front of your children hoping to hurt your mate emotional so they will know how it feel to get hurt and the children is in the room will you are doing this.

Later on your children will call you the same names because they will think that it is acceptable.

Do you find yourself blaming the other

Do you find yourself blaming your mate in front of the children because of the difficulties you have with spending money.

In blaming your mate for what happening you teach your children to be a victim and to blame others for what it is happening in their life without taking their responsibility.

Disappointed in your mate

Do you show that you are disappointed in your mate in front of your children and verbally or physically express this in front of your children?

Talking bad in front

Do you find yourself talking bad saying hurtful thing in front of the children when your mate has left the room because you feel that it is easier than if your mate was standing in front for that would create more confrontation.

Throwing things

Do you find when you get upset in front of your children you throw things at your mate even if it is a little thing.

Screaming

Are you a person when you get upset even in front of your children you screaming but you do not realize that you are screaming?

Being inconsistent

Do you find that you are inconsistent with things you say and do in front of your children if yes you are giving a wrong message to your children?

Your children needs guidance that will carry them in to a better relationship when they grow up and when you are saying one thing and doing another you leave the children with a feeling of insecurity.

Scaring your mate

Do you find yourself scaring your mate with your outburst of anger in front of your children and is this what you want as an outcome.

This attitude changes your children history for the future and how they see or believe what a relationship is about.

Verbally aggressive

Are you verbally aggressive to your mate in front of your children and they are not so sure how to behave because they do not know if they are next.

Do you find the way your mate talk to you triggers feeling in you that you find difficult to control and your behaviour is affecting your children because most of the time it is happening in front of them.

Not listening

If you feel that the only way to get your point across because you do not feel that your mate is listening to what you have to say screaming in front of your children is not the way to go because you are teaching them that about how to conduct themselves in a relationship when they do not feel heard.

Time out

Know that when you are emotionally charge you may not be thinking logically of what to say, how to form the right words to your mate in front of the children so it is better a time out so both of you can resume the conversation without the children around.

Conclusion: How you behave in front of your children affects them in either a positive or negative way and changes how they perceive the world and how they will behave in their relationships.