What do you think about yourself? How do you view the real you? When you look into the mirror, what are you thinking? Do you think things like, "You're a winner, I'm proud of you, I love you, and I believe in you?" Or, are you thinking things like, "You're a failure, You're stupid, or You're ugly?" What things do you say to yourself on a regular basis?
Self-talk is vital! We spend more time with ourselves than anyone else in the world. That's why we have to be our own best friend. We live in a fallen world and there's already too much in life that is against us anyway. We don't need to be beating up on ourselves too.
You may find it easy to speak garbage to yourself because maybe that's all you've heard all your life. Those tapes in your brain just keep playing over and over. You may feel completely worthless because of all that. But, you are NOT worthless! God created you in His image, and with a purpose. God is perfect in all His ways and does not make junk.
We tend to kick ourselves when we do something stupid because we feel like a failure. But, a friend never kicks a friend when he's down. Why should you kick yourself? There is never an excuse to put yourself down! Besides, failure is an event, not a person!
Let it be known that there is an enemy who is like a roaring lion that roams around seeking whom he may devour (John 10:10). He doesn't need any help.
A lot of us haven't heard positive things from our parents, family, or those we've spent a lot of time around. So, what we weren't able to get from them, we have to give to ourselves.
Look in the mirror. Tell yourself that you really and truly love yourself and that you really and truly forgive yourself for all of your shortcomings. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. After all, you are only human. Tell yourself that you believe in yourself. You're gonna make it and God is on your side, and if God is for you, who can be against you (Romans 8:31)?
It will feel really awkward for a while until you get used to hearing and seeing yourself speak to yourself this way, but it works. Your self-esteem will improve dramatically!
Most people don't realize that a lot of the reason why we feel the way we feel is because of the way we think. Our thoughts produce our feelings. You will obviously perform much better when you feel good about yourself than if you keep thinking you're a failure.
If we're ever going to have abundance and prosperity in our lives we must love ourselves. We must feel deserving of success in order to have it and enjoy it. We must be our own best friend and love ourselves before we can love anyone else (Mark 12:31). Besides, God loves you, why shouldn't you?
How To Be Your Own Best Friend
Doyou ever speak negatively to yourself, maybe you put yourself down in front ofothers, or perhaps you have difficulty accepting praise (maybe you don't thinkyou deserve it)? If you are guilty of doing this, why do you do it? These areall related to low self esteem and a lack of self confidence.
Itsimply does not pay to put yourself down when you are on a path of selfdevelopment or self improvement. For every little success you have will benegated by the negative self talk or attitudes you have towards yourself. It'slike one step forward, negative self talk, then two steps back.
Whereveryou want to get to in life, whatever you want to do, it is imperative that youbecome your own best friend first. Why bother with self doubt and loathing?Look where they have got you? Put them behind you, they haven't served any usefulpurpose up until now and they won't serve a useful purpose in the future. Allthey do is keep you stuck in a self perpetuating loop of negativity and selfdoubt.
Inwhat situations do you speak negatively towards yourself? Maybe you make amistake at work and say to yourself 'I'm an idiot, I always do this'? Or maybeyou left the house one day and forgot to bring some important paperwork withyou? Did you remind yourself that you are 'useless person who always forgetsthings'? Or perhaps you said something even more severe?
Whatgood does it do talking to yourself like this? You are essentially beatingyourself up (at least mentally anyway). Do you feel better when you do this? Itis like you have this deep belief that you are an idiot, and that this event(whatever it may be) has just proved it correct.
It'snot useful and it gets you nowhere. Instead it just leaves you feeling negativeand bad about yourself.
Inthis day and age, time waits for no one; to be successful you need to be onyour own side. You need to continually support yourself through everything youdo, it is important to give yourself praise when you make progress (howeversmall) and not to berate yourself when things go wrong.
Rememberthis if you are having a bad day, or things aren't going right for you, don'tbeat yourself up, you are on a path, you have a goal, don't get upset by minorthings in life, nothing is really that bad. Don't let anyone else define yourhappiness. Only you control if you are happy or not, nobody else.
Lifecan be hard enough without you being your own worst enemy. Always be your ownbest friend. Learn to accept yourself for who you are at any moment in time.
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