You may have a feeling that your wife is cheating on you but you don't want to confront her with no evidence to go on because it is possible that you are just being paranoid. Perhaps her being secretive and seeming to sneak around may be perfectly innocent, such as planning a surprise party to show you how much she loves you. Before you make any attempt to confront a cheating wife, you do need to have evidence to back up your accusations. Usually, though, when you notice that things are different between you and you start to have suspicions, there is generally something there that is tweaking your natural instincts of betrayal.



You should start looking for telltale signs that she is cheating. This could be claiming that she is working overtime. If this is so, you can come up with some reason that you need to phone her at work to find out if she is really there. If you find out that she has lied, you shouldn't automatically jump on her case because she will deny having an affair and your questions will only put her on alert. You can arrange to be hiding in the parking lot on a day when she says she has to work overtime and watch when she does leave the facility. Then you can follow her to see where she does go and whom she meets. With this proof you can make the accusation and find out what exactly is going on.

However, overtime is not always the excuse a woman uses to meet with her new lover. There are other signs you can look for such as new jewelry or a new hairstyle that is completely out of the ordinary for her. If your wife suddenly starts dressing more stylishly in spite of the fact that you have bought her stylish clothes in the past that she didn't wear, then this may be a sign that something is going on behind your back.

Does she tend to be more secretive when on the phone? If you have Caller ID on the telephone, then you may be able to see what numbers are listed there and if there are any that you don't recognize. Try calling back to the numbers to see who answers, but again the caller may also be able to identify the number and put your wife on alert. By using a reverse phone look up, you can find the name and address of any unknown numbers and if you want even more information, a paid subscription will tell you just about everything you want to know about this person.

If you suspect your wife is meeting her lover in the family car or is talking to this person on her cell phone while in the car, there are many listening devices on the market that you can easily install in the vehicle. Even though you will get only one side of a telephone conversation, it may be the information that you need.