Post the end of a relationship many women are plagued by the question of how to win back their love. Whether it was your husband, boyfriend, fianc? or lover, the hurting of losing the one you love can lead to a lot of emotional and subsequently physical and mental trauma. Whether you chose to call it the quits and are now regretting it or whether it was him who chose to break up, either way, once you have made up your mind about working on how to get him back, you need to be prepared to work hard in order to win him back.Once you have made up your mind about working on how to get him back, you must start by realising that the tactics that work on women are pointless on men. Women and men are fundamentally different and what might succeed in helping a man win back his woman will probably backfire on a woman trying to get back her man. While women are open to discussion and reasoning and emotional reminders soon after the break up, no matter how bad a note things had ended on, men need a considerable amount of time and space to be left alone for a while before they can be expected to pass time interacting directly with their exes. Women in general are more open sentimentality and hence are easier to have heart to heart conversations with. This is not to say that men are with no feelings or that are not as attached to relationships as women are. The fact of matter is that after a break up it takes a man time to figure out the value of the woman in his life, actually realise that she is no longer around and then realise that without his woman his life is emptier and less bright and happy. So if you are serious about getting your ex back, you will have to simply come to terms with the situation and accept that he is no longer a pivotal part of your life, at least for the moment.So, when he goes away or anounce you that he needs his space, do not chase him or plead with him or try to make him understand. As hard as it might be, what you need to do is accept his terms and walk away from the situation as well. This may seem highly unlikely, but actually, the first step to getting back your man lies in letting him go. If you agree to the separation in a calm and dignified manner, he will have no choice but to appreciate your maturity and will inevitably reconsider his own actions.Even though it takes a lot of will power and strength, you must ensure that you do not chase your ex around. Calling him on the phone repeatedly or e-mailing him all the time will only frustrate him further and make him think of you as desperate and pestering. But it is important that you let him know that you agree with the decision. The best step would be to either write him a brief letter or to send him a short and succinct message. Since it is a step that he won't be expecting, it will make him think about you more. Also, he will be able to do so without the pressure of having to respond to you immediately so he is more likely to think of you with a fond touch than he would if you are run after him.Once you agree to his decisions, it will create an atmosphere of positive communication. He will regard you in a better light and will in all probability get in touch with you soon to talk cordially. He will be curios to see what changed your mind and if you are serene and unruffled, he will without any doubt be impressed with your conduct.Also, the old rule about playing hard to get is very essential. It will make you seem a little unavailable and your ex lover will find you much more desirable when he understands that he cannot have his every wish fulfilled and he will work harder to get your attention.The important thing is that you should not react with uncontrolled joy if your ex begin to show signals of wanting to come back. It is essential for you to stick to your plan for it to succeed.