Napolean Hill said "There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it." No truer words were spoken, but lets break it down a little more. I think most successful people would agree with the above statement. Those that have succeeded, by most standards in life, can probably identify with what Napolean Hill said. But what are some of the qualities successful people share that we can point to as a common thread? I've decided to focus on 5 of these traits. There are certain to be more but these tend to be the most commonly observed.
1. You get whatever you think about the most. Famous successful people from history bear this out. Roman Emperor, Marcus Aurelius said, "a man's life is dyed by the color of his thoughts,"' and the Buddha commented that, "All that a man is comes from his thoughts."' Whatever you think about most consistently and with purpose and emotion tends to expand"' discipline your mind to focus predominantly on what you desire in life.
2. An attitude of gratitude will take you a long way. Melodie Beattie said, "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.... It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow."' Be in awe of all the good you have already created in your life and the more you are grateful for that - the more that will flow freely into your life.
3. Take full responsibility for the emotional state that you choose to embrace each day.You choose your emotional state each and every day. Believe it or not, no one can make you feel anything you do not want to feel. You are the captain of your thoughts, so decide to embrace those emotions that propel you toward your stated goal.
4. There is never any scarcity of opportunity, but rather there is only scarcity of resolve to seize the opportunities that knock on our door every day. Scarcity does not exist unless we choose to embrace it"'therefore, it is better to never embrace scarcity only embrace the possibility for abundance.
5. Trust yourself to make the right decisions. By doing so, you trust in the very wisdom that created you. Dare to become a no limit person and abandon the idea of focusing on limitations. You already are complete, whole and perfect. Trust in the perfection of your life.
How To Get Him To Want You
Let me be clear, there's nothing wrong with wanting more, it's part of our abundant nature. It's the thinking attached to the things we achieve, have or do that leads us astray.
Out of this, I've decided to give you a formula that is guaranteed to succeed for you when all 3 elements are in alignment with each other!
The Formula is:
You x (Thoughts + Actions) = Results/Outcomes
Or, Y x (T + A) = R
Interpretation:
YOU:
This is the most important part of the equation and involves you being still enough to know exactly what it is that you want. Most people will say they know what they want but in reality there's so much happening around them that it's just something that sounds nice, for e.g. I want a new car.
You need to be crystal clear on what it is that you truly want because without the clarity, you won't have the focus required. So go into a quiet room, sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and ask the question, ?What is it that I truly want??
If other thoughts come in, allow them to pass through and keep asking the question. You'll know when you have the right answer because it will fill you with enthusiasm and excitement.
If no answer comes, then leave it and return to it tomorrow, spend at least 15 minutes with it each day until something comes.
Remember, this is a critical step, the YOU part of this equation is the foundation and your thoughts and actions are surface structures, without a foundation all buildings crumble!
THOUGHTS
Once you're clear on what it is you want, you need to be vigilant of what you're thinking because the old conditioned (unconscious part) of you will probably not be comfortable with change and will look to sabotage efforts. This is where your mindfulness practice comes in handy, notice the objections that come up in you in wanting to change. In you noticing them, they lose their power to influence you.
ACTIONS
Action is the final step, unlike a lot of self-help tools out there that say action is the most important aspect of getting what you want. When the steps above are taken care of, action becomes a natural flow from that. You find that you're actually motivated to take action because you're clear about what you want and understand the importance of it. Action is only becomes work when you're doing something that isn't in alignment with what you really want. Action becomes a pleasure when it is in alignment with what you want and that's something that a lot of people don't experience yet.
Final Note, when the YOU is there, your efforts through your thoughts and actions are multiplied dramatically. This is what is missing in personal development models that focus on positive thinking and taking action alone.
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