So you've managed to capture a woman's imagination, maybe you've even been on a date. So when do you make your move? How do you take an emotional connection to a physical level? This can be a tuff transition for most guys because it feels entirely too bold. When and how do I go in for the first kiss? How can I make her comfortable being held close to me? How can we move towards sex in a way that is not too bold or awkward? If you have these kinds of questions, you are getting ahead of yourself.



The first thing to remember is that physical escalation is gradual and natural. This means it starts almost immediately after meeting and builds slowly! Your first contact with her should be casual and non-sexual. Social touching may be a hand on the small of the back or shoulder when maneuvering around her in crowded places. You may reach over standing at her side and give her one of those little side hugs to say she's awesome for agreeing with something you said. These are all brief and casual examples that you can use seconds after meeting her.

After some light social touching you can start building up to more personal touching. This is when you have built some attraction and rapport. An easy place to start is wrapping her arm around yours promenade style or holding her hand to walk some were to talk, or to the bar or show her something. Progressing to putting your arm around her or having her sit on your lap is easier and natural now.

If you have arrived at this point comfortably she is comfortable with light flirty touching. From here on you have to think about taking two steps forward and one step back. What this means is building anticipation and chemistry. Give her a seductive look in the eyes for a moment. Sweep her hair out of her face but don't go in for the kiss, then go back to normal conversation for a while. Take the time for a few of these subtle touches and she will indicate that she is ready to be kissed.

Remember these principles of anticipation and sexual tension when progressing towards sex. Your touch will progress with your emotional connection. A few ideas would be: running your hands up the back of her head and hair, grip her hair pulling it very gently, then release and take your hand back like nothing happened.

Progressing smoothly to this point sets you up to kiss her and take it to the next level. Now there are several principles to go with the basic progression example I have mentioned here. I have already hinted at one, the progression of your touch should be congruent with your progression of emotion. This should be enough to get you started. So keep learning more about how to the best lover she's ever had, through reading more and experience.