One of the top questions that women ask about men has to do with men and emotion. Women wonder how they can get their men to express their feelings. By nature, men just are not big on putting their feelings and thoughts out there for other people. For their girlfriends and wives, it can create issues and frustration, and plenty of it.



To start, if you are making a goal to get your man to open up more to you, make sure that you know what you are asking for. Some men keep their feelings to themselves because they dont know how to express them, and others keep their feelings stuffed in because they want to. Some, however, dont say how they are feeling because they dont want to say something that they know you wont want to hear. Be aware that you must be careful what you ask for; you may not always like what he has to say about how he is feeling.

When you are talking with your man, be sure to practice good listening skills. A huge majority of men state that they dont talk about their feelings often because they think either that women dont listen or that women dont understand. If a person feels like their partner never listens or never understands, that person eventually would just bottle up and not say anything to anyone about their feelings. The worst thing that you could do would be to get your man to open up and talk about his feelings and then not listen to what he is saying!

Certainly dont expect men to just open up and blab to you about everything that is on their minds all at once. It may not be easy to get him to talk, but many times a man is perfectly capable of expressing his feelings, but just doesnt want to. Men are pretty good at not stressing about every little thing, and it very well may just be that he feels like what he is thinking just isnt important enough to talk about. Men dont always have gossip to talk about or some epiphany to share, so dont force the issue too much.

A good idea when you are trying to get your man to open up about his feelings is to stay open to new ideas, opinions, and thoughts. If you want him to open up more about how he is feeling, you have to be careful with what he says. Of course you have the choice to disagree with everything he says, but people are not likely to keep talking about their feelings if those feelings are condemned constantly. If you do disagree with something he says, dont jump down his throat and disagree too sharply with what he says. You want him to feel like you really care about his feelings, and you dont want him to feel like he is being interrogated.

Finally, make sure that you return the favor of talking about your feelings. If there becomes a lull in conversation, give him some of your feelings to work off of. It is only fair that if you expect him to talk about his feelings, you should talk about yours too. However, be careful that you dont take over the entire conversation, either, and dont ever say things just to start an argument or to pick a fight with him. If you take the opportunity of him talking about his feelings as an opportunity to argue, hell eventually not even bother talking at all!