Let's turn back the clock. You've gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you're not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.
In preparing to make a follow-up call, it is a very good useful idea to look at what you did on the first date, and recall what things you liked about each event that you shared. Writing down this information is a good thing to do. One way to show interest in your date is by recalling specific things of the date you shared together already.
Before making the follow-up call, activities to boost your confidence are always a plus, as long as not taken too far beyond confidence and itno cockiness, which is definitely not a turn-on for women. Exercise, talking with a good friend, some strenuous activity to raise adrenline are all good ideas for making you feel good about yourself, thus enabling you to dial the number on a positive note.
Pick up the phone and go for it! Choosing to identify who you are promptly will lessen any potential confusion as to whom she is speaking with, and keep your self-confidence intact. Talk about her and her day, and how she has been since the first date with you. It's a known fact that we all like to be the center of attention, we all like to know there is someone interested in our well-being. Be sure to show interest by asking questions, but not so many that you seem to be prying. Women like men who know how to listen, and seem interested enough to ask questions.
Now for the important moment! Inquire about her plans later in the week. Women like time to prepare to go out with men, so it's important to leave her some time to do this. If she's available, just ask her if she wants to get together. Keep it casual, since you don't want to frighten her away. If it happens that she does have plans, tell her why you called. You had a lot of fun with her last time, and would like to know if she's interested in going out with you again. Be sure to keep it light, and don't sound desperate!
If she said "yes", that fantastic! However, she may not have given the answer you were hoping for. In that case, decide if you really want to go out with this particular person again, and if you do, tell her you'd like to see her again when she has some free time. Give her your number and tell her if she'd like to do that, to give you a call when she's available. Chances are, she may wait until she feels in charge of the situation to go out with you again. Or, maybe there won't be a call at anytime. Whatever happens, go on with your life! Do not sat waiting by the phone for a call that may never come, or stop living your life.
The great thing is that if that second date doesn't happen, you can always try again with another woman. If you did everything as it should have been done on the first date, like being polite and a gentleman, listening when she talked, and things like that and she still doesn't call, then maybe she just isn't the one for you. At least you've only invested in one date at this point, and you can use the experience to better prepare for your next date with someone new.
Most importantly, always be who you are. Never try to be what you might think someone else would like you to be. Not starting out on an honest note, the likelihood of you and anyone making it to the second date are slim. Always be a good, kind, and polite person. Stay involved in the date. Try something new! Following this suggestions, I'm sure that the second date will be easy to rope in.
How To Get Second Date
You know her partially. She just has a slight idea of who you really are. I believe you did not let her all on the first date. Its time to give it a second shot. Depending on the way you would like your relationship to be or go, u got to be prepared. First, review your first date in order to cultivate a starting point for the second date. Did thing go your way, or was everything a surprise? Did she play hard to get or was she willing? This is a second chance, to make up for the blunders, if any. Time to go for the second date. You already made your first impression, because you will never get a second chance to make that. Its time to present the second phase of who you really are. Be the boss, this time. Make her feel comfortable and assure her of security. It is advisable to be different from the previous time – if you were official the previous date, make sure you meet in a casual setting. This should tell you much about the girl you are dating.
It is often taken that the date has to order during the first and the second date. Too often, if you let her order – and especially if you ask her to, she will be exorbitant. Make the order according to your budget, but involve her in deciding on what to take. Something like; how would you like it if i ordered for wine? or I haven't taken beer for so long, help me to recall. Don't forget to use the word dear on the second date she may not take a big note of it. This softens a spot in her heart. Before the order comes, engage her in a nice talk, about the work place – if you share some interests in that field, places, but desist from talking about family and people. Once your delivery is made, talk about food. Talk big appetite. Don't talk of what you don't like. It could be her best and she will hate you. Enough of warm-up!
As you wait for the dessert, its time for THE TOPIC. The million dollar question which is off course expected during the second date. It should be as simple as; "I forgot to compliment you on your hair. You look great". As she shyly says ‘thank you', take note of the dimples. It goes all the way. She is flattered. Its only after the dessert that you should introduce the issue at hand. Do not put it so seriously in a matter of fact manner.
The best way is to pass the point with a light touch and humor in it. If the reception is not good it saves your face. You did not really mean it. If the response is positive and encouraging, take the cue. This means your second date can lead to countless ones to follow there after. Do not stare at her in brazen manner, neither should you stare at your food all the time, or at the beautiful women passing by. Maintain eye contact. Have reservations and avoid acts that might be misinterpreted. For instance it is not yet time to start holding her hand. If she makes the first bold step to touch your hand, take it cool. It is a sign of good times to come.
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