The purpose of this article is to show you how to get your ex boyfriend back fast.

First and foremost when you have a break-up with a guy you have strong feelings for, you are naturally going to act on those needy feelings you have and try to cling to them.

You'll want to call them, you'll want to try and talk about the relationship with them and about their feelings. You'll want to show them how hurt you feel in an attempt to get them back.

These are all perfectly natural responses however they will only serve to push your ex boyfriend further away from you.

This article is all about how to get your ex boyfriend back fast, so you'll need to do the very opposite.

The first thing you should do is give them space. That's right, just let them be. If you try and chase them, they will naturally want to run away.

The next thing you should do is take 30 minutes to cry, get angry, throw a tantrum on the bed, really let yourself go and feel your emotions. Scream into that pillow and kick your legs and arms. Let those tears flow.

As crazy as that sounds it will really make you feel a whole lot better and put you in a clearer head space for focusing on how to get your ex boyfriend back.

Once the 30 minutes are up, go take a nice long bath or shower and imagine all those bad feelings are getting washed away. Allow yourself just to be in the moment.

OK, now that you're feeling a little better, we can move onto the next step of how to get your boyfriend back fast, which is understanding why he left.

The key is to think back over conversations you have had and search for clues. Perhaps he made comments, jokes, looks, or sounds that indirectly revealed something(s) he wasn't happy with or that made him uncomfortable with the relationship.

This is an important exercise because if it is something that you are able and willing to change, this could be a powerful attractant in getting him back and 'attraction' is the secret of how to get your boyfriend back fast.

If you can't come up with anything, that's OK just keep your mind open. In the meantime, give yourself a massive make-over. That's right, whether you've let yourself go or not, it's time to get into tiptop shape and become even more beautiful than he remembers.

Not only will this make you feel great and empower you, the next time he sees you he'll be blown away and will not like the attention you're getting from other men.

So get on that stairmaster, have that facial, get your hair done and buy a new dress and shoes to match.

The next thing to do is to find an opportunity for him to see you in your new 'stunning state'. Perhaps there's an upcoming party that you know he'll be going to or a restaurant you know he frequents. Arrange to go to this event with your girlfriends (don't go with another guy as this isn't fair to him and may serve to create a negative situation).

Have the intention of going out and having a good time with your friends. The key is to show him that you don't need him (remember, neediness is a guy repellant).

Once he notices you, he'll be keeping an eye on you all night. If you make eye contact with him, just smile but then turn away and keep having fun with your friends.

What's happening here is you're reminding him of why he was attracted to you in the first place and he may well start to feel those feelings again, especially if he notices that you are getting attention from other men. Definitely leave yourself open to talking with other guys while he is present.

If the circumstance arises and your ex approaches you, be nice and open to talking with him but keep yourself centered. Don't allow yourself to get emotional. Be friendly but keep some 'energetic' space between you.

Allow him to lead the conversation. Allow him to speak. Don't make it easy for him, remember he broke up with you.

Whatever he says to you, don't rush into anything, even if he says that he's missed you and wants to get back together.

The key here is to let him chase you again, so take it slow and this will be hugely attracting for him and empowering for you.

How to get your ex boyfriend back is to return to the beginning, rather than to try and pick up where you left off.

Now off you go and get your man back!