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How To Handle Divorce

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The ink is not even dry and you feel different. You know that you will never be the same. You are irrevocably different. You know that! You feel that! What do you do now? Whether your divorce was your choice or the choice of your partner, you are now different, and you will have to embrace the changes that will come your way.

There are two directions you can now take. The high road or the low road, but the choice will be yours. The latter one leads to resentment, bitterness, and self destruction. You can build anger and resentment toward your former partner which will lead you to find ways of seeking revenge. If you chose this road to walk down you will find yourself arguing and fighting over every minute item. Your emotions will get out of control on this road and you will take much too long to heal while on it.

Words will be spoken that are meant to hurt each other. What will this accomplish? Will you find peace and satisfaction on this road? Many have walked down it. Some never return. Do you think it is worth ruining your life and, perhaps, others while seeking revenge? What about your children, if any are involved?

The higher road is more secure. There is dignity on the higher road. This road is much more promising because it offers such things as: peace, forgiveness, and, most of all, healing. But, make no mistake about it, this road is the most difficult.

This road means taking responsibility for your own actions. It may require that you admit that you need others to come along side of you for support.

Everyone needs help from time to time in life. However, many lack the freedom or courage to ask for help. You may want to browse the self-help books at your local book store to find assistance. If you were belittle by your ex spouse you will have to be in continuos dialogue with yourself presenting positive statements to your inner person.

The higher road leads to forgiveness. In order for you to be set free you will have to release your ex. It is such a simple statement, but one of the most difficult decisions to make, and then, apply.

However, forgiving the one who hurt you is the ultimate means to growth and healing. As much as it hurts to release someone of the pain they brought into your life, it is a necessity.

The ink may not be dry, but you don't have to wait until it is to take the higher road. You can get on it today!

How To Handle Divorce

The expense of divorce is the main reason that one decides to represent himself, pro se. The cost of a divorce, including attorney fees, can range from fifteen hundred dollars for an uncontested case to five figures for a contested case. Thus, it is no wonder why many people decide to file on their own without an attorney. This is known as filing Pro Se. A pro se divorce where both parties are in agreement can be accomplished without an attorney. However, I would never recommend that someone files pro se. The process has become more and more specialized in terms of what documents need to be filed and the rules which must be complied with in finalizing the case.

Sometimes, but not often, self-representation is possible. It truly depends upon the issues involved and the capabilities of the pro se litigant. It has worked in situations where: Both parties agree; There are no minor children; There are no issues in dispute; The party can dedicate the time to learn the process; There is no property to divide;

Importantly, many courts are not amenable to pro se litigants. The law and procedures must be followed just as if an attorney were involved. The court cannot make any accommodations simply because the person is not represented by counsel.

A pro se litigant can hire counsel at anytime during the proceeding. Thus, a person can do the best he can until the case is set for trial and then hire counsel to assist at the trial. The downside is that most attorneys will want a large retainer if the case is going to trial. A trial can last from days to weeks. Further, the attorney will have to catch-up and review what has occurred during the initial phases of the case. Lastly, the attorney will not have the ability to engage in further discovery or other fact finding protocols if the pro se litigant had previously waived the opportunity. For these reasons, it is not recommended that one represents himself pro se, unless the case is highly uncontested and no unresolved issues remain between the parties. For contested cases, it is always recommended that a highly skilled, experienced attorney, handle the lawyering for the client.

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