Here is something that you MUST accept... If she is going to cheat on you, raging jealousy will only speed along the process. It certainly won't stop her. You have to develop the attitude that "if she's going to cheat on me, I want it to happen." That way you can move on to better things.
Yes, as with anything, sometimes a person will respond well to you showing a little emotion. But trust me, you are MUCH better off never being jealous than searching for just the right amount of jealousy.
The reason is that jealousy automatically signals insecurity. And nobody wants to be with someone that is insecure. Girls want to be with the catch, the prize, someone who knows he's got a lot to offer. They don't want to be with someone who thinks she is going to leave him for every guy she talks to. And here's a hint, if you let her know you're afraid of her leaving you, then she probably will.
You must keep your life that you had before you started dating. This will help tremendously with jealousy. Jealousy usually comes as the result of not having any other options. When you are that afraid of losing someone, every little thing can be seen as a threat. So you have to keep your life outside of the relationship strong. I'm not saying you should keep other girls on the line, but you should know that you can go out and get another girl the next day if you have to. If you have a great life, you won't freak out over the little things, because you will be fine no matter what happens.
Put yourself in her shoes. If you talk to someone of the opposite sex, it doesnt mean that you are interested in them. The same goes for her. Just because she has friends of the opposite sex, or talks to them occasionally, doesnt mean that she is going to cheat on you. But if you throw a fit every time she does it, it might actually push her away.
So keep your mind off of these paranoid thoughts by staying busy with other interests, and looking at things outside of your emotions. If you can keep this attitude, or at least act like it. You will be more attractive to your partner and your relationships will prosper.
Copyright (c) 2008 Lance Taylor
How To Overcome Jealousy
Overcoming Jealousy is one thing that all sufferers want to achieve. Jealousy is one of the cruellest behaviours that someone can conflict on themselves and their friends and family around them. If you suffer from jealousy at the moment you will understand exactly what I mean and just how devastating it can be to yourself and your relationships with people that you love.
Each and every year in my Hypnotherapy clinic here in Oxfordshire I treat hundreds of individuals and couples that have suffered at the hands of jealousy for years. By the time that they come and see me the jealousy has certainly taken its toll on everything that they love and care about. It is amazing that something that starts off in our imagination can soon spark out of control and cause such devastating damage.
Jealousy can be caused by many things; however it nearly always sparks from some type of insecurity. I have worked with many individuals where their jealousy started because of their partner having an affair. I have also treated individuals that put the whole thing down to being bullied at school or a parent leaving when they were young. Whatever the reason ? if jealousy is not dealt with then it will grow and cause major problems within current and future relationships.
With clients that want my help in overcoming jealousy I use Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique. Both therapies are very successful in treating jealousy. The Emotional Freedom Technique can work fast to alleviate all of the negative emotions associated with jealousy, while the Hypnotherapy can help them to rebuild their lives.
If used over only a short period of time, Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom technique can help you to completely overcome your jealousy and to move on in your life. Just imagine being able to do all of the things that make you happy instead of having all of those negative thoughts and emotions running around inside your head. Imagine not having to obsess and worry over every little thing.
So if jealousy is a problem for you and you would love to get rid of it and move on, then these treatments could be right for you. When picking a practitioner, make sure that they are fully qualified and insured, either contact a local Hypnotherapy or Emotional Freedom Technique organisation to get more information and to find a practitioner that is local to you.
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