When two people are joined together in holy matrimony it denotes togetherness forever for the couple, so say those wedding vows. Blissful years of happiness lay ahead in thought on the wedding day as the couple peer into each others eyes, but what happens when that moment passes by and the years when the couple find themselves drifting apart. What can they do to salvage what they once had?

Causes can be of many for this to happen in a marriage Some people have no choice and are forced to make a decision to end the relationship because they find they can no longer live with an adulterer, a couch potato or in general an inconsiderate human being. However, in contrast we have two people still very much in love but struggling to keep the marriage going.

Are you one of these people, if so there will be a perfect explanation to why this emotion is being felt by you, causing you to feel trapped in a loveless relationship?

Most marital problems rise from debt issues, children and involvement of a third party. Even though you love your partner their bad habits can cause you stress. Bear in mind this goes both ways. Yes you too may have a few bad points that your partner finds uncomfortable to watch or be part of.

Both parties need to talk things through and open up about their concerns as to why they think their marriage is failing. Talking needs to be done in private with no screaming kids running round, and no screaming match from the pair of you on hearing something you may not have wanted to hear. Remember debt can be cleared, children can be tamed and as for those bad habits i.e biting your nails, picking your nose or leaving the toilet set up, has to stop now.

Ways to rekindle that love.

1 Earn back trust if you have faltered in the bedroom department with someone other than your wife or husband.

2 Start going out little more together. Go on a stroll together (hold hands), have a meal out (candlelit), a night at the theatre (Romeo and Juliet) or go watch a movie (one you both agree on)

3 Reminisce about the days of your early courtship and why you fell in love with each other. Bring up those funny moments when you would both split your sides with laughter.

4 Pamper your partner with an all over body massage, this to be done in the bedroom

5 Remember to tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them for being there for you; this will be reciprocated in thought.

6 Send each other love notes, flowers, chocolates, tickets to a football match. Whatever it is going to take to rekindle that undying love for each other

When a marriage breaks down it is normally due to loss of interest in each other, think of ways to make your self more interesting. Talk about things your partner likes to talk about. Do things your partner likes to do, who knows you may enjoy it.

When you make eye contact let there be a glint of lust Tell your partner why you love them. Always add "because" at the end of "I love you" it increases intimacy in your marriage.

Example below must be avoided at all times to evade divorce.

"I love you" because you have put weight on since we married or "I love you" because you have gone bald.