Otherwise, it is ideal to become aware of that emotion and its role in our life in order for us to be fully empowered and whole people. Some situations, especially where the loss of a loved one is concerned, may find us not so willing to let go of the self-pity if only because the grief and pain felt with the loss seems so unjustified. It is undeniably difficult, in some situations, to grasp how we can be responsible for the outer events of our lives.



My path has been particularly difficult, with child abuse of every nature and the loss of two children, and everything in between. But my life didn’t start to reflect my desires until I accepted the events in my life and took responsibility for my part in creating them. It was at that time that I was able transform my entire life, from the inside out. I had many deep wounds to heal and one by one, day by day, they were healed. As I continue my journey I am still faced with lessons but I approach my lessons with enthusiasm and with the determination and will to learn them. As we start to see our lives reflect the beauty of our being we are not of afraid of change and growth anymore and we realize that our lessons are actually blessings in disguise.

Are you willing to free yourself from the past and empower yourself in the present? Are you willing to heal your pain rather than allow it to be an excuse to stay aligned with the ego and forsake the truth of your soul? Some questions you can consider in your process of understanding where you might have subconsciously contributed to your painful experiences are:

1. What was I getting out of this situation that while it held me back, it also prevented me from moving forward?

2. Why am I afraid to change, grow and move forward?

3. What if I were to do so anyways, what would be the worst thing that could happen?

4. Is this a bad thing or will I ultimately benefit?

5. Is it worth it to maintain patterns that sabotage my success in all areas of my life?

6. Am I really aware that I deserve to have it all?

7. Am I willing to take full responsibility in creating this for myself, knowing that as I do with full commitment, I am not alone in the process?

8. Am I passionate about becoming the best person that I can be?

9. Am I willing to allow my passion to help me go the distance?

10. Am I willing to do so with ease and grace, hereby releasing all need for struggle and pain of any kind?

If you can work through these questions until you answer yes to them all, you will be on your way to complete healing and creating a beautiful life. It really is up to us to do this. One thing I have learned is that without my commitment and passion to my purpose and my dreams and goals, it would be very easy to get off track and back into my comfort zone. Instead I have become rather comfortable consistently growing outside of it and I know you can, too. I invite you to join me in creating your journey to fully empowered, beautiful & magical life!